hi! so, i'm a trans man who's recently become involved with another trans man in a very physical, platonic way.
we're very good friends and understand each other really well, and we kiss/make out/do a substantial amount of "clothes-on action" like dry humping and stuff fairly frequently as practice for gaining our confidence in sexual encounters, as we're both virgins. we're very open with each other about our preferences, likes/dislikes, how dysphoria affects what we like and what we'd be open to trying, so communication isn't an issue. he's also SMOKING HOT! ;!!; and it isn't a question of attraction.
the thing is, i'm meant to be working on initiating because i want to get better at it!!!! and i don't how to!!!!! i managed it a couple times the most recent hangout, but it's absolutely TERRIFYING and i'd love some advice on those who are more experienced "-_-
(idk if this is useful info, but he knows about my inexperience and teases me often about it lightheartedly, and one of the ways i've managed to feel confident in initiating was when he baited me by saying i COULDN'T do it, so that seems to work as a motivator?????)
initiating - how????
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Re: initiating - how????
Hey there, kiwiboy. Welcome! I think we can help you out with this.
Before I offer you anything, can you talk to me a little about what you're terrified of with initiating?
Before I offer you anything, can you talk to me a little about what you're terrified of with initiating?
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