I’m looking for any discussion around this, Idk if this is the spot. Idk if there can be any actual advice that can be given other than just work on being better. So any sort of feedback would be great, maybe i’m not seeing where i’m lacking.
Background: I struggle to know what my “label” is, so i don’t really use them. I guess technically I’d be a lesbian but I still question it due to my lack of experiences and media i favor. Like I like hot men and fictional media about them or even adult written media featuring men, but when it comes to real life I get so put off.
Anyway, I struggle to be excited for other women/girls who are going on dates with men. I feel really mean when it comes up but I just can’t help it.
I can pretend/ embellish, or get try my best to excited for them just because I love them
But like I wonder if there’s something I can learn to be better? Practice is helping… sorta.
I don’t know, maybe i don’t want to think about my sisters and close girl-friends engaging with men, or feeling attraction to men. Or being wanted by men.
1. I honestly just feel zero or feel a bit of repulsion
2. I think it is a direct mirror showing me how I am different and makes me feel I am “missing” something.
3. I am still trying to learn about women’s pleasure and liberation this year. Though , It doesn’t help that the these women feel it from men. It’s like their joy and pleasure is coming from something I have no desire nor interest in and it’s hard to connect with them about it.
4. Also with my gay friends have different personality, everyone’s chill about who they’re into and going on dates. When it comes to the straight women it’s like they are soo over the top with how cute or wonderful this guy they met yesterday is. Like I just don’t get it i feel so mean and I can’t match their energy the way they want me to. I guess I feel that men shouldn’t have this huge glamour effect on them because I don’t feel that about them.
I feel like i’m always thinking “well im glad because you’re glad” but I don’t actually care about the situation.
I sound like a man hater, I am not, It is literally only when the subject of Attraction, desire, and sex come up abt Men and Women.
Social Skills (error 404!)lol
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