I like he/him pronouns
I don't really like they/them and i hate she/her
but i don't feel... i guess i don't feel fully like a guy, but i also feel like i want more than anything to be seen as a guy
idk what i am?
im so confused and my therapist has told me that my autism diagnosis might affect how i perceive my gender but still
idk what i am sometimes
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Re: idk what i am sometimes
Hi Zayne.mp3,
What's not working about he/him pronouns? You said you like them, so it seems like that works out just fine. You don't have to fully "feel like a guy", especially because there's no set definition of what that even looks like. Gender is complex and there aren't boxes to neatly fit our gender expression and gender into, rather we can make our own configuration, if that makes sense. So whatever pronouns feel right for you are right, even if you aren't sure you perfectly fit into whatever gender you think they're assigning.
I do want to ask - what are you looking for out of figuring this out? In other words, are you wanting to find pronouns that feel right, or figure out which ones "fit your gender best", and why? Are you looking for guidance on your gender, or just the pronouns?
What's not working about he/him pronouns? You said you like them, so it seems like that works out just fine. You don't have to fully "feel like a guy", especially because there's no set definition of what that even looks like. Gender is complex and there aren't boxes to neatly fit our gender expression and gender into, rather we can make our own configuration, if that makes sense. So whatever pronouns feel right for you are right, even if you aren't sure you perfectly fit into whatever gender you think they're assigning.
I do want to ask - what are you looking for out of figuring this out? In other words, are you wanting to find pronouns that feel right, or figure out which ones "fit your gender best", and why? Are you looking for guidance on your gender, or just the pronouns?