I get kinda scared
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icecreamqueen3
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I get kinda scared
Everytime i use a clit vibrator for like a few seconds I feel like the sensation is too strong and I anticipate that and it makes me kinda scared so I stop
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Re: I get kinda scared
Hi again, icecreamqueen.
So, two things about this:
1) If a vibrator feels too strong on an area, you have things you can do to change that: you can move the vibrator further away from your body (thus, putting less pressure on it), you can turn the speed or intensity of the vibrator down, or both. When it comes to moving it further from your body, you can do that by holding it a little further away, by only using it over your mons or outer labia, not right on your clitoral hood or glans, or you can put something between the vibrator and your external clitoris, like a layer of clothes or a folded-up washcloth. All of those things will lower the level of sensation
2) What is it you're feeling scared of? A vibrator used as directed can't hurt anyone, so you don't need to be afraid of that. If it isn't that, what is it you're afraid of with this?
So, two things about this:
1) If a vibrator feels too strong on an area, you have things you can do to change that: you can move the vibrator further away from your body (thus, putting less pressure on it), you can turn the speed or intensity of the vibrator down, or both. When it comes to moving it further from your body, you can do that by holding it a little further away, by only using it over your mons or outer labia, not right on your clitoral hood or glans, or you can put something between the vibrator and your external clitoris, like a layer of clothes or a folded-up washcloth. All of those things will lower the level of sensation
2) What is it you're feeling scared of? A vibrator used as directed can't hurt anyone, so you don't need to be afraid of that. If it isn't that, what is it you're afraid of with this?
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icecreamqueen3
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Re: I get kinda scared
Im not scared of harm and stuff well being scared doesn't really define it its more so i get so physically overwhelmed in like a few seconds of doing it that it turns me off
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Re: I get kinda scared
It sounds like the sensation is too intense and becomes overwhelming, which can happen. There's nothing to worry about, the clitoris is very sensitive and it's common for people to feel that way about using a vibrator directly on it. Why don't you give Heather's suggestions a try? <3
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