A thread for non-Black allies
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A thread for non-Black allies
This is a space where non-Black allies (including non-Black people of color) can discuss amongst each other ways that we can support and show up for the Black community during this time. Feel free to share article, book, or movie recommendations, resources on anti-racism, or stories about recognizing your own privilege or using it to support the Black Lives Matter movement.
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Re: A thread for non-Black allies
Thanks so much for making these two threads, Al.
My favorite thing that I have seen so far is this: https://medium.com/equality-includes-yo ... d18b0e0234
A few friends and I have joined up to create an accountability pod with each other so that we can all be sure to start or stay doing things on this list as an ongoing practice and habit. I highly advise doing something similar with your friends/family (especially those who are not BIPOC) as well.
My favorite thing that I have seen so far is this: https://medium.com/equality-includes-yo ... d18b0e0234
A few friends and I have joined up to create an accountability pod with each other so that we can all be sure to start or stay doing things on this list as an ongoing practice and habit. I highly advise doing something similar with your friends/family (especially those who are not BIPOC) as well.
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Re: A thread for non-Black allies
Also, my friend Karen, who is one of the editors for our city’s alt-weekly, worked with writers to compile this: https://www.chicagoreader.com/chicago/p ... d=80371561
I think it’s something very good to read to help get a feel for how a range of Black writers are feeling right now.
I think it’s something very good to read to help get a feel for how a range of Black writers are feeling right now.
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Re: A thread for non-Black allies
A colleague shared this today, which I think is just genius: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PrA ... obilebasic
It’s organized in developmental stages of racism/anti-racism. Amazing.
It’s organized in developmental stages of racism/anti-racism. Amazing.
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Re: A thread for non-Black allies
Oh, that is a really helpful document! I was having a conversation with someone yesterday about these kinds of "stages" but without a nice framework like this to refer to; I am going to save this as a good resource to share with the person I was talking to!
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Re: A thread for non-Black allies
I loved the essays by those writers. Difficult on my heart to read, but so important. Has anyone been able to find anything specifically for non-Black people of color? I haven't quite had the time to look around for good ones that explore anti-Blackness in non-white communities.
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Re: A thread for non-Black allies
Same here, al. I'm a non-Black POC, and I've been having a hard time figuring out where I fit in to all of this (more complicated because I'm biracial, half of which is of European Jewish descent). Anti-Blackness in non-white communities is definitely complex because it's likely that that group faces racism under white supremacy while also contributing to anti-Black ideologies (I hope that made sense).
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Re: A thread for non-Black allies
I really like and have been following this: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1H-V ... ZG8lY5AxWg
I love all the other things posted here!
I love all the other things posted here!
You have the power to say "This is not how my story will end".