first gyno visit for a trans guy

[togamisboy]

i have my first gynaecologist visit in the morning and i’m really scared. i’m an ftm trans guy and i am 14 for reference. my period has not stopped for six months and i’m feeling quite dysphoric and not really sure what to tell my doctor.

i cannot tell my doctor i am trans because my mother does not support me, and she likely will not leave me alone. what should i do?

[Heather]

Hey there. Welcome to the boards. Happy to help you out with this. Let's see what we can do to help you feel less worried and make your exam tomorrow as positive an experience for you as possible. <3

Let's start by seeing if we can't make this all easier by not having your mother in the exam room with you. It would be really unusual for a doctor or other clinician to allow someone else in with you during a GYN exam unless you asked for that person to be there. But it does still sometimes happen.

Do you have the ability to call into the office and let the receptionist know that a) you're trans, b) you're not out to your mother, and c) you do not want your mother present in your exam?

Per the latter, do you feel able to just tell her you want that exam private, by any chance?