Am I wanking properly?

[Sam526687]

Hi, I'm Sam, I'm 13 years old. After years of it being a 'slow burn' with not much happening, puberty is finally accelerating, and I'm eager to explore my sexuality, namely by wanking, but it doesn't seem to be leading anywhere; I don't get any pleasure from it, and have never climaxed, so I'm wondering if I'm doing it right, or if i just need to do it for longer. My erection does stay up when i'm doing it, and then quickly go down when i stop, so that might mean I'm doing it right....? My process is below, I'd be very grateful if somebody let's me know if there's a way I could do it better or something:

1. Get an erection from have a fantasy or reading (but NEVER watching) porn.
2. When it's hard enough that it's painful if I try and bend it, I grip my hand around the bottom of it, and move it up and down, so that it makes wrinkles in the foreskin when i reach the top. The hand that's not wanking is gripping the headboard of my bed, and pulling at it, because a friend told me that helps.
3. Every now and then, I clench the muscles in it, clenching my core at the same time.
4. Other than that my penis stays hard, my body doesn't respond in any way at all, and rather than getting pleasure, i just feel drained and tired.

One other important thing I should probably mention is that my body is producing sperm - I can feeling it moving around in short, sharp, pulses. Thank you to anyone who replies!

[Sam W]

Hi Sam,

So, there's not one technique that's the "right" way to masturbate; how people masturbate is all about what feels good for their bodies. If you're looking for some ways people commonly masturbate, this article covers that: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation.

Can you give me a sense of how much exploration you've done in terms of masturbating? Do you always follow that exact same process you describe? Or have you tried different ways of stimulating your body during it?

[Sam526687]

Yup, that's pretty much what I do, I haven't explored much further than that because I don't really know what I'm doing, I just know in theory that it can lead to an orgasm, and I know in theory that orgasms feel good, and want to experience that. Thanks for the article - I will look into it!

[Sam W]

You're welcome! And it sounds like exploration is a good next step, then. What works for one person in terms of masturbating may not feel great to another, so it may be that the more you try different things, the more you find things that feel good.

[idk anymore]

I don't let my foreskin wrinkle like that, I sort of let my hand slide up and down over the surface, it doesn't really hold on to a specific spot. I feel like that way, I get more pressure on the head of my penis, which is wear it feels best.