I'm scared to go to my obgyn appointment

[Marlove22]

Hi my obgyn appointment is goint to be in 3 days and im scared to go I am 18 years old and its my first time going
My boyfriend wants to go with me but i do not know if he can be there
Help!

[Johanna]

Welcome to Scarleteen, Marlove!

Have you read our article about what happens at an Ob/gyn appointment? Maybe having a better idea of what you are in for will help you calm down. Your First Gynecologist Visit

[Redskies]

Also, Marlove, is there any particular thing that's scaring you? We'd be happy to talk it through with you and help you figure out how to manage any specific thing that's bothering you, or how to talk about it with your obgyn, if those would help.

[Marlove22]

Thanks!
And yes the thing that scares me its what questions are they going to ask me
What can i ask

[Sam W]

Hi marlove,

That article above will give you some sense of the stuff they'll ask. They'll want to know about your sexual history (if any) and if you have anything in particular that brings you there. As for what you can ask, that's up to you. If you have questions about birth control, or weird period things that have been happening, or things like that, now is the time to ask them. You can also ask them to explain what the exam will involve, so you know what to expect as you go through it.

[Heather]

Any sense of why you feel scared about a healthcare provider asking questions?

Especially if you know and understand that it is always a patient's right to a) not answer anything they do not feel comfortable sharing, and b) ask a doctor to talk differently with you if the way they are communicating makes you feel unsafe or uncomfortable.

Same goes with you and them: you get to ask whatever you like. It's just that they, too, get to answer within limits, like, for example, letting you know if something you ask is just outside their practice or scope.

[Marlove22]

Thanks to you all
I read the article and it help me alot
I apreciated what you do to help