I'm 18f and I can't really "get off." Before my ex and I broke up, he would try and finger me, but I wouldn't feel anything or get aroused, so we would stop. It was both of our first times doing anything sexual, so I don't blame either of us. It could be that we were both inexperienced with religious parents, so neither of us knew what we were doing. But when I try to masturbate, I find that I don't feel aroused either.
I'm pretty confident that l'm not asexual because I do have 'wet dreams' and wake up feeling aroused, but whenever I try on my own, nothing happens.
I bought a vibrator wand, and it feels good when I use it against my clit, but I can't really stick it inside me without it hurting.
The pleasure feels good on my clit, but it only lasts for a couple of seconds before I feel frustrated that nothing else happens.
Any tips on what I'm doing wrong? Sorry if this is confusing-I'm still learning!
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