So I finally came without it being on my own during sex. Why is that?

[rafacurtis]

I've been having sex with my girlfriend for a little over a year now - she's my first sexual partner. I've never been able to orgasm without masturbating. Even during vaginal sex... I didn't even think it was fun. However, I decided to buy non-latex condoms last week, and magically everything was resolved: I was able to orgasm during vaginal sex both times I used them! It was a little quick, shocking - after all, it's the opposite of me never having been able to orgasm before haha ​​I need to learn to control myself. I feel very happy, really - but why did this happen? Could it be a mix of the sensation of the condom and my confidence in having an orgasm, since, especially in the beginning, I was very afraid of cumming because I thought that >everything< could cause pregnancy?

Anyway, I still can't feel the same pleasure from other stimulations, whether oral or manual. Curious, but one step at a time, right?

[Latha]

Hi Rafacurtis, welcome to the boards!

I'm glad you had a good experience! It would be hard to pinpoint a definite explanation for why this happened, but your suggestion is very plausible. I do like your approach — one step at a time is right. Since using condoms has worked for intercourse, why not try oral or manual sex with one as well?

Let us know if you have any more questions.