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Am I aromantic or not?
Posted: Sat Dec 07, 2024 9:56 pm
by squid-the-squid
I’ve only recently started questioning whether or not I fall on the aromantic spectrum. For as long as i can remember though, I only get attracted to people who have interacted with me in a positive way . It’s one of the reasons why I don’t get attracted to fictional characters or celebrities even if I find their personalities and/or looks attractive. I know for a fact that I’m a biromantic asexual though, so is it just me being ace or is there some aromanticism in there?
-squid
Re: Am I aromantic or not?
Posted: Sun Dec 08, 2024 5:17 am
by Latha
Hi there, Squid — welcome to the boards!
While you're the only person who could definitively answer this question, I can see why you've asked — feeling romantic attraction in very few or limited contexts can be a sign that someone is aromantic. There can be some overlap in the experiences of people with different identities, so this might come down to a question of whether aromantic experiences resonate with you, and whether identifying as aromantic feels right. One way to approach this might to explore the resources listed on the
AUREA website. I would keep an eye out for the terms 'demiromantic' or 'greyromantic', because these subidentities might be closer to what you're looking for.
Let us know if you have any questions!
Re: Am I aromantic or not?
Posted: Fri Jan 17, 2025 10:17 am
by GroupieReclaim
Hi Squid!
As Latha said, you are the only one who can definitively answer this question, but not all hope is lost! Does the label aromantic make you feel good and seen? Do you relate to the aromantic community? If you answered yes to both of these, then I would say you're heading in the right direction with your exploration.
If you find that settling on a label becomes distressing, maybe spend some time doing things you enjoy instead of worrying about a word. Being human is very fluid and confusing for everyone and it's okay to take your time to figure it all out. I wish you luck!
Re: Am I aromantic or not?
Posted: Fri Jan 17, 2025 5:41 pm
by squid-the-squid
Latha wrote: ↑Sun Dec 08, 2024 5:17 am
Hi there, Squid — welcome to the boards!
While you're the only person who could definitively answer this question, I can see why you've asked — feeling romantic attraction in very few or limited contexts can be a sign that someone is aromantic. There can be some overlap in the experiences of people with different identities, so this might come down to a question of whether aromantic experiences resonate with you, and whether identifying as aromantic feels right. One way to approach this might to explore the resources listed on the
AUREA website. I would keep an eye out for the terms 'demiromantic' or 'greyromantic', because these subidentities might be closer to what you're looking for.
Let us know if you have any questions!
Thank you so much for the advice! It turns out that I resonate with the greyromantic label and I now have an identity I feel happy with.
Re: Am I aromantic or not?
Posted: Fri Jan 17, 2025 5:49 pm
by KierC
Hey there Squid,
I’m glad to hear Latha’s advice was helpful! Also, so glad to hear you now have words to describe your identity that you feel happy with! What a wonderful feeling, so happy to hear this and will pass the kind words to Latha.