question about dating boys

[anne14]

hello! I am 14 years old and could someone explain to me why do the boys are interested in having sex after a few dates?

[Andy]

Hi Anne and welcome to the boards!

I’ve got good and bad news for you. The bad news is, the only one who can tell you why they are interested in sex is the person themselves. Not only is that something not just boys do, but people of other genders as well, but also, the reasons will probably differ from one another.
The good news is, that if that’s something you are not comfortable with, be it after a few dates or ever, you don’t have to have, or be interested in having, sex with them. And if yours and the other person’s different expectations about dating and relationship end up being a deal-breaker? It might hurt to have to let them go, but ultimately, it’s usually better to find about these mismatches sooner rather than later. Does that make sense?

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