Masturbation doesn't feel good like before

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mika.m
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Masturbation doesn't feel good like before

Unread post by mika.m »

In the past days, my fantasies don't help me to erect well like before... I mean I really want to masturbate but it's without a full aroused dick, and without enjoyable orgasms.
Watching porn doesn't help me too.
How can I make my masturbation enjoyable like before?
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Re: Masturbation doesn't feel good like before

Unread post by Heather »

Hey there, mika.

It's common for people's arousal levels or interest in sex of any kind or enjoyment not to be the same from day to day, just like how your mood is changes from day to day. It's not a problem that needs to be solved, it's just a variation. At times when you're just not feeling it, rather than getting frustrated and trying to change that, the best thing to do is usually just to go with the flow and spend your time doing other things that aren't sexual until you're feeling it again.
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Re: Masturbation doesn't feel good like before

Unread post by mika.m »

But it's a little bit hard to do something that isn't sexual... If I gonna watch a movie, then maybe a sex scene will popup... Or if I gonna do something in outside, maybe I will see some pretty ladies pass by me... That doesn't erect my dick fully but make me to masturbate
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Re: Masturbation doesn't feel good like before

Unread post by Latha »

Hi Mika!

This situation you’re describing, where you’re able to feel aroused, but masturbation doesn’t feel very satisfying or pleasurable, is one of those mildly frustrating things that happens from time to time. I wish I could give you a solution that is sure to help immediately, but I’m afraid I can’t because bodies just don’t work that way. In these situations, sometimes people masturbate just to manage the urge, even though it doesn’t feel as good as it could. Regardless, if you give it some time and explore other pleasurable activities, it is certain that you’ll get to a point where orgasms feel good again.
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Re: Masturbation doesn't feel good like before

Unread post by jenifer877 »

What you’re describing is actually more common than you might think, especially during periods of stress, change, or emotional overload. If your body is responding to arousal cues but things still feel kind of flat, it could be your mind asking for a break or craving connection on a different level. Sometimes taking the pressure off and stepping back for a while helps reset that mental association between pleasure and habit. It’s not broken, it just might need a shift in focus for a bit.
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