my clit is too sensitive??

[mangoplaydoh]

hellooo

i think my clit is just too sensitive. the outer visible part is about like half the size of a pea, if size has to do with it. it hurts when i clean myself, or use water that’s a bit too cold or too pressurized.

it also is too sensitive when i masterbate, no matter if i use lube. it doesn’t feel good and it’s very frustrating, as i get horny, of course, as i’m 15, but can’t relieve it. it effects my day-to-day life and i really want to lower my clit sensitivity so i can masterbate comfortably!

i was thinking if maybe HRT, testosterone could help, since it could grow my clit and maybe the nerves in my clit could “spread out”. however, i’m not certain it’d work.

please help!

[Latha]

Hello Mangoplaydough, welcome to the boards!

I don’t think it’s especially unusual for the clitoris to be a bit sensitive in response to pressure and low temperatures, but if pain is bothering you, that is something worth looking into. Bottom growth from HRT often makes people feel more sensitive, so I’m not sure that would be a good solution here. Let’s start with a few questions - maybe we’ll be able to figure this out.

• When did this pain start?

• Does it hurt when you touch around the clitoris, or touch it over clothes?

• Can you describe the pain and sensitivity a bit more? Is it like an ache, an itch, or a burn?

[mangoplaydoh]

thank you so much for your reply! i will try to answer the questions to the best of my capability

thank you for telling me about the bottom growth aswell

When did this pain start?
it’s been this way my whole life, i lowkey just thought it was normal, lol

Does it hurt when you touch around the clitoris, or touch it over clothes?
like i try to touch it over my clothes, but yes, it still hurts. when i touch over the clitoral hood, i don’t feel anything, and when i put more pressure it just hurts, haha

Can you describe the pain and sensitivity a bit more? Is it like an ache, an itch, or a burn?
i don’t really know how to describe it, but i’d say it’s probably like a shock? yeah a shock is the best way to describe it

thank you again!

[CaitlinEve]

Regarding your clitoral hood, how does it retract? For example, is there always a part of your clitoris that's out and can you retract your hood further and/or cover your clitoral head entirely?

There's a few things that could lead to clitoral pain. Have you been able to talk to a doctor about this sensitivity and/or would that be something you'd feel comfortable doing?

[mangoplaydoh]

I can retract it fully, but theres always a part thats out. i can’t pull it down anymore

i am going to talk to a doctor soon, but i don’t know how to bring up the fact i want to be able to masterbate comfortably ….. i also don’t know when i am going to see a doctor.

[Heather]

You know, you don't need to ask about that right away to get the help you need. If, when you have an appointment with a provider for the first time -- and you'll want to see an OB/GYN about this, not a general doctor -- you may feel like you need to build some trust first or meter out your vulnerabilities across more than one visit. If so, that's okay. (And if not, you 1000% can bring up masturbation.)

You can start by saying it simply has long felt very uncomfortable, and that you even have pain with things like basic hygiene.

I do want to add that if you are talking about contact right with the glans, under the hood, for some people that kind of touch -- or yes, water that is too pressurized or cold -- that sometimes is too much for some folks, and some people find that when it comes to clitoral contact with masturbation or sex with partners, indirect touch is what feels best per the glans. You can put firm pressure or friction on the hood of the clitoris, or even engage some of the internal portions, including from the outside, like the crura, and see how that feels to see if this is maybe not so much a problem as it is a common variation. You also might check in to see that when it comes to how you are washing yourself, that you're not doing anything more with the glans than just a gentle swipe with your finger and some water, which is all that needs.

That all said, there's no reason NOT to also check in with a healthcare provider if that is something you want to do and can do!

[mangoplaydoh]

thank you for your response!!

what is a “crura”? and if there are other ways to stimulate the clitoris without touching the outside glans, what are they?

[Heather]

The crura are one of the parts of the internal clitoris! You can find out more about the whole of the clitoris and its parts here: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/bodies/ ... s-and-more

Because the whole of the clitoris includes portions inside the vagina, the mons, in the outer labia and even a bit into the thighs, yeah, there totally are other ways to stimulate it than without touching the glans directly. That can involve things like rubbing the whole of the vulva with a hand, activity inside the vagina (what we call the g-spot is also linked to the internal clitoris, in fact, much of what we feel inside the vagina with sexual activity, period, is as much about the internal clitoris as the vagina itself), including targeted stimulation with toys or fingers, etc.

[mangoplaydoh]

thank you for your response!!

i also wanted to ask if theres any known way to permanently reduce the sensitivity in the outer part of the clit?

[Heather]

No, there isn’t. How body parts feel to the touch isn’t just about what’s on or just beneath the surface of them, but about your whole nervous system.

[mangoplaydoh]

thank you for your help!!

[Heather]

You're welcome. Happy to talk more about this or anything else you want support or help with. <3