i cant orgasm

[Kaikai]

hi my names kai.

okay so i have an issue with not being able to orgasm. i have a rose and even when i use it i get to the line but i cant ever cross it. sometimes i try to keep going but my body gives out. i cant tell if this is an issue with my body or do i need to try something different? im not sure on what to do at all.

[Jacob]

Hi Kaikai, welcome to Scarleteen!

Sadly there's no "Up, Up, Down, Down, Left, Right, Left, Right" instructions that work for everyone, it's going to be a matter of experimenting and listening to yourself.

What can often be helpful though is to take the emphasis away from orgasm itself and towards just doing anything that you find enjoyable and feels good.

I would spare yourself the stress of spending too much energy getting frustrated trying to cross that line but instead take it down a notch and find ways to enjoy something a bit less stimulating, or even take a break altogether.

You don't want to associate something that you intend to be pleasurable with stress and frustration.

[Kaikai]

thank you. i might take a break all together since it is often frustrating.

[Jacob]

That makes sense! I'm sorry it's felt that way though.

Are there other things you can do that feel good? And/or take care of your body?