Masturbation questions

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Gluggaveður
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Masturbation questions

Unread post by Gluggaveður »

Hello. I am a vulva-haver who has been attempting to masturbate for a while. I recently experienced what I think may have been an orgasm? It wasn't a big change in sensation or anything, I just sort of got tired and found myself a bit wobbly and lightheaded. I don't know if this was orgasm or not?
Also, a couple of times while masturbating, I did end up leaking a strange fluid from my urethra. It was yellow, but it did not smell like urine. It felt somewhat like urinating, but it was purely accidental. Do you think it was urination or ejaculation?
Thank you very much to anybody with answers :)
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Re: Masturbation questions

Unread post by Anya »

Hi Gluggaveour,

Orgasms, and the experience of orgasm differs from person to person, with commonalities, but all are unique. Since I don't know your body like you do, I can't for sure say whether you "had an orgasm or not," as orgasm also exists on a spectrum. Some people experience full-body sensations, and others, a simple relaxed feeling. These experiences also totally differ depending on the time, personal stress level, and other physical aspects. So someone who is used to one kind may experience another kind just due to external changes in life and sexuality or internal changes in the body. All is normal. Here is an article on the experince and definitions of "orgasm."

In response to your concern about urination or ejaculation, it is possible that it could be either, or as well, the liquid produced by the Skene's glands, known colloquially as "squirting." Vulval ejaculation is made up of different fluids from the body, and looks typically thicker than water, and like discharge, typically has a whitish color. Liquid produced from the Skene's glands on the other hand (front wall of the vagical canal) is comprised mostly of dilluted urine. So even if it is not entirely urine, the pressure on the bladder from genital stimulation may result in this liquid being released from the body, likely containing some urine, thus explaining the yellow color, but with a different smell. Here is another article on anatomy, covering some more info on the Skene's glands. If you are interested in further info than what's here, let me know.

All of these possibilities are completely normal, and absolutely nothing to worry about. They are experiences by many many people during sexual activity, and should not spark concern about health, or embarrassment as too often portrayed by the media.

Do you have any more questions?
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Re: Masturbation questions

Unread post by DemiKitten »

Your possible orgasm sounds a lot like mine..except my entire body has a vibrating feeling. Like even when I breathe. Nobody knows when you orgasm except you. I guess only way to know is to try to achieve it again?
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Re: Masturbation questions

Unread post by KierC »

Hi DemiKitten,

Thank you for sharing your experience and empathizing with OP! It’s so good to know that we’re all not alone here. <3
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