Fingering my girlfriend

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Fingering my girlfriend

Unread post by dsmw »

My girlfriend wants me to finger her but i’m scared i will hurt her. I’ve never done anything like that before and i dont wanna make a mistake. Someone please help me
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Re: Fingering my girlfriend

Unread post by amber »

Hello!
It is definitely common to feel some nerves trying something new - especially related to sex. As long as you and your partner are both wanting to try together there shouldn't be too much pressure or stress. A good place to start would be asking your partner what makes her feel good. We have an article on communication that could be helpful Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner .

There are some general fingering go-tos that will help make the both of you comfortable such as having clean hands, short or rounded nails, and using lubrication. Still, everybody is unique and the only way to find out what they like is by asking. Do you think you would be open to starting a conversation with your partner about your worries and wants?
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