arousal

[2playaaa]

okay so i just turned 14 and i try fingering myself and like just trying to make myself feel good but when i try fingering, i don’t feel anything? like i can feel my finger inside but i don’t get aroused or anything. well its like j just feel a finger but it doesn’t feel good nor bad. i could be completely wet or turned on from something previous and it still won’t work. and when i try rubbing my clit it doesn’t either. it feels the same. but when i jump a pillow it feels great and i orgasm after a while .. why don’t i feel anything when i rub my clit or finger myself? well i dont go deep at all like i cant cause it hurts so i say about 2/3 of my middle finger goes in i can even move it up or down cs my walls and it hurts soo bad so i js take it out

[Sofi]

Hi there, welcome to the boards.

You know, we hear so much about fingering, but in reality that isn't how all - or most - people masturbate. There isn't really one way everyone does, since we all enjoy different things. For some people, fingering feels good, but for many others it either hurts or just plain doesn't feel good enough to do. Many folks prefer clitoral stimulation, but the funny thing about that is there's so many ways to do that.

So while it's true some people just rub their fingers on their clit, that's not how everyone who prefers clitoral stimulation masturbates. Some people find that to be too direct and overstimulating, so they rub around it instead of directly on it. Other people prefer a vibration, so they use toys. Other people prefer to rub an item such as a pillow - that counts as clitoral stimulation too! So that's a perfectly okay way to go about it.

You gotta find what one or several things work for you and what brings you the most pleasure, since that's what we're after here, and it sounds like you've done that. May I ask, is there particular a reason you don't want to stick to that, or why you wish you'd enjoy other methods?

[2playaaa]

thank youuu so much !!! and to answer your question, there isnt a reason, i just want to experience how good fingering feels ! maybe it’s because i do it myself, if i had my crush do it then i feel like i would enjoy it then , aswell as fingering . or maybe it’ll come to me when im older. and once again, thanksss

[Latha]

Hello, 2playaaa

Sexual pleasure is so much about what is happening in our minds, so it is possible that being with a partner could make fingering feel different. Being more experienced might also make it easier to connect with your body in pleasurable ways. For now, if you are looking to explore masturbation more, I think it may help to explore fantasy and let curiosity guide you. We have some guides for that here:

• Take a Self-Love Road Trip: Let Curiosity Guide Your Masturbation

• How to Approach Sexual Fantasy and Desire on Your Own Terms