How do you do the whole uncircumcised thing?

[JamieNeutron]

Hi Scarleters,

I had my first oral sex experience the other day, but it was kinda weird. It was hard for my partner to do it without pulling the foreskin down, and there was no way to put a condom on without pulling down the foreskin either - but I found that in that position my glans was sensitive in an uncomfortable and not at all pleasurable way? I always masturbate without retracting my foreskin, so I was wondering if it hadn't built up a sensitivity tolerance like i assume circumcised folks have; should I start masturbating using lotion with the foreskin pulled back to hopefully increase my tolerance? Or do I just need to suck it up and get used to it lol

preesh any insights!

[amber]

Hi JamieNeutron and welcome!

Sensitivity is very common for folks with foreskin. It is true that masturbating with the foreskin pulled back (and with lubricant) can help get your body more comfortable with so much sensation. Still, making sure any sexual activity you do feels good should always be the goal!

We have a great article here which you might like -- A Foreskin Foray: Questions, Concerns & Clarifications

[Heather]

To be clear, there's no right or wrong here, only what feels good for you!

Per using the condom, once you put it on, did you try kind of pushing your foreskin back up (from the outside of the condom) so that it went back to covering your glans? You might be able to do that. Alternately, using an inside condom -- which you can also use for oral, your partner will just need to hold it down while using it -- is another option, since those are loose and there's no need to hold the foreskin down to get them on.