Is it normal that even if I go slow, it still hurts..?

[Angelz]

I’ve been doing some stuff with a guy and even tho we’ve been trying fingering for a while it still kinda feels uncomfortable even with lube.

I want to do more but I’m afraid it’ll hurt too much..

So basically, my question is that is it normal that it’s still a bit uncomfortable?

[Latha]

Hi there, Angelz

I think the answer depends on what we mean by discomfort, here. If the insertion feels too uncomfortable, where you feel the urge to stop or slow down or it is all you can think about, I would recommend holding off on doing any more right now. Any pain is a sign that you should pull back. But if the sensation feels unusual, but is essentially comfortable otherwise, you could see how exploring more feels.

I hear that you are trying manual sex with a partner. Have you tried this same activity on your own? Does it feel any different?