Triad breakup

[Moosebro]

I was in a relationship with two people that I guess is over now. Me and my girlfriend got broken up with by our now ex-boyfriend. He said it was because he didn’t feel comfortable being in a triad relationship. I’m not sure if I’ll be able to be friends with him if I still love him romantically, and I feel so much guilt over breaking up with him last year because I was bullied out of dating him by my family

[Latha]

Hello and welcome to the boards, Moosebro

I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through a breakup, but I am glad you reached out to us. This can be a space for you to talk about how you feel, and get support and advice around your changing relationship.

It is okay if you need time to adjust before you can be friends with him, and you can take as long as you need. Would you like to talk about how you and your girlfriend are feeling about all this, or about the guilt you mentioned from being pressured by your family last year?

[Moosebro]

I’ve been depending on him a lot more than I realize, I’m really not taking the breakup well. Talking to him made me stop thinking about my shitty family. And I really did love him

Last year I couldn’t talk to my family about him without them saying that I was being r****ded or a wh*re. My parents don’t stop my siblings from bullying me so I just broke up with him so they would leave me alone.

I was too focused on the emotional abuse from my family to realize that he was acting different. I think it was too subtle for me to realize that.

I had to ask him to block me temporarily because I’m so stubborn, I kept asking him what I did wrong

[KierC]

Hi moosebro <3

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this breakup and this crummy situation with your family. The bullying and emotional abuse sounds really difficult to experience, and I’m sorry that it contributed to difficulties in your relationship. Have you spoken with your parents about how your siblings treat you?

I hear you too that you’re having a rough time with the breakup. We actually have a good resource for this that I’d like to share with you: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/feeling ... y-breaking

It has a lot of great advice for feeling your feelings and taking care of yourself while you go through a breakup. How does that sound to you?