My pregnancy scare pls help

[Sailor_pearl]

So basically me and my bf do everything except sex. But this time I was in my fertile window and at one point we were both naked and he's penis did touch the outside of my vagina for 5 secs then I told him to put it away bc I'm scared of pregnancy but it did touch me I felt it and I was in my fertile days. He also fingered me so im scared he had precum on his fingers. But there was no ejaculation at all. Can I get pregnant?? Im confused because it says direct -direct vagina to penis is a risk but what if it never went in? Just touch me slightly on the outside.

[mikky]

Hello Sailor_pearl,

I want to start by saying that this does not sound like a significant risk for pregnancy, but I think that understanding why will be important for providing both peace of mind and help you make decisions in the future.

Generally, there is a small, but present risk of pregnancy from direct contact between a penis and vulva with no barrier (barrier could be underwear or clothes, a condom, etc) and no ejaculation. Let’s be clear- this is a very, very small risk considering that his penis was rubbing or touching you externally, and because there was no ejaculation. You should also note that this would be an STI risk as well. This doesn’t mean you need to panic- the risk here is again, extremely low. However, going forward, as someone who is concerned about pregnancy, I think understanding your risks and talking more with your partner about what activities you are and aren’t cool with is important.
If you’re looking for sexual activities without a pregnancy risk, or want to better understand risk, this article is going to be very helpful:
Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?. You’ll see there is no risk from manual sex (fingering). Sperm aren’t strong enough to survive the journey from penis to fingers to inside your vaginal canal and then on to create a pregnancy. More on that here: Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide.

It sounds like you are pretty concerned about pregnancy specifically. I’m assuming that when you say you and your boyfriend do everything “but sex,” you’re meaning penis-in-vagina intercourse? If that does end up being something you would like to do with this boyfriend or ever, I think it will be helpful to learn about different birth control options and their efficacy: Birth Control Bingo. There are so many methods available, and when used correctly or in tandem, they are very good at their jobs.

One last thing: you mention being in your fertile window. If you are getting that information from a cycle tracking app, you’re probably getting not-super-accurate information. This article is going to give context and will maybe help with ovulation worries in the future: Let's Dial Down Some (Maybe) Ovulation Freakouts