Struggling to orgasm
Struggling to orgasm
I've really been struggling to orgasm and it's been very frustrating especially since I can cum but I'm getting very little to no pleasure from it. Is there anything I can do to help this?
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Re: Struggling to orgasm
Welcome to the boards, xTyl.
Generally, when people aren't reaching orgasm or experiencing much pleasure, what they need to do to find out how to do those things is explore some more, rather than doing whatever it is that just produces ejaculation or that makes for an easy, but not very satisfying, orgasm.
By explore, I mean things like setting aside and taking more time -- if this has been something where it's minutes, try seeing what happens when you give yourself an hour -- exploring different parts of your body and different kinds of touch or sensation, exploring different things to fantasize about during masturbation and sex with any partners, etc.
It might help to think about this as being about feeling good, too, not about reaching orgasm. orgasm is great, but it's only a few seconds at a time, and if what you've been doing leading up to or around it hasn't been very pleasurable or satisfying, orgasm probably won't make it so all by itself.
Generally, when people aren't reaching orgasm or experiencing much pleasure, what they need to do to find out how to do those things is explore some more, rather than doing whatever it is that just produces ejaculation or that makes for an easy, but not very satisfying, orgasm.
By explore, I mean things like setting aside and taking more time -- if this has been something where it's minutes, try seeing what happens when you give yourself an hour -- exploring different parts of your body and different kinds of touch or sensation, exploring different things to fantasize about during masturbation and sex with any partners, etc.
It might help to think about this as being about feeling good, too, not about reaching orgasm. orgasm is great, but it's only a few seconds at a time, and if what you've been doing leading up to or around it hasn't been very pleasurable or satisfying, orgasm probably won't make it so all by itself.
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