Is 2 months too early?

[Jessiekessy20]

I adore my boyfriend. He's the absolute greatest and he's so patient. I'm a virgin, and I was nervous about having sex for the first time and he said he didn't care and would be happy to wait until I was ready. I feel really ready and like the thought but I'm nervous due to my personal insecurities and I find myself thinking, is sex 2 months into a relationship too early? I know we both want to but I don't want to spoil the happiness of our relationship with a bad experience. Do you have any advise on how to feel less awkward?

[mikky]

hi Jessiekessy20,
There is no specific timeline for what is “too early” to have sex. That is up to you and whoever you are having sex with to decide. It seems like you’re already thinking about readiness, which I think is much more helpful and individualized than arbitrary timelines.

One huge thing about readiness, though, is thinking about whether you are ready for things to get awkward or not be totally awesome. Sex, whether it is the first or thousandth time, can be quite vulnerable, and just plain awkward. Rather than eliminate the awkwardness, I think it is usually more beneficial to consider whether you feel safe allowing that into your relationship. If it feels like an awkward experience would spoil your relationship, then, that might be a pretty good sign that focusing on building a stronger relationship should be a priority first.

I highly suggest you read through this whole article, and answer the questions to yourself: Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist