To keep a very long story short, I've struggled with communication for some time. I've tended to hold everything in, which has led to very unpleasant scenarios. However, after finding a good therapist, practicing open communication with my parents, and learning to be more honest with my feelings, I'd say it's starting to become easier in my life.
However, there are some conversations that I still feel awkward discussing with my parents. Especially when it comes to my Queer identity. They're getting better at saying the right things and being more mindful when discussing Queer topics. However, one aspect that I find difficult to bring up is wanting/getting a girlfriend.
We've talked about relationships in the past, but it usually ended up with, "It doesn't matter if you get a boyfriend, girlfriend, or a partner, just focus on that later." My main question is: How can I bring up wanting to be in a Queer relationship right now?
They're expecting me to wait until university, or until I get a job, but that doesn't seem realistic at all, especially since I'm meeting more people part of the LGBTQ+ community and getting crushes like any other teenager! I'm not scared about them reacting negatively, but I was just wondering, how do I approach this topic with them?
I just want the option of being in a relationship, even while I'm still in highschool be on the table, and not something I have to wait for. I understand where they're coming from, but it's still frustrating because I want to casually talk about these topics with them without it being scary or embarrassing.
Let me know if there are any resources on here, because I might have missed them. Lots of hugs, and I'd love to hear another perspective on this!
Cheers,
Andy
To understand a bit better first, are you looking to talk with your parents about this because you’ve found someone you’re interested in? Or is this more wanting to talk to them to open them up to the idea, or to open *you* up to the idea, etc.? 