I think I ejaculated while pulling out and some got left inside

[Prodda]

We did it unprotected 3 days ago at this point and when I pulled out I think a tiny bit got shot inside near the edge. My girlfriend took a Plan B 40 minutes after it. She’s going to take a test 2 weeks from now and then one more after. However, I can’t stop freaking out about this if she gets pregnant again. It already happened once and she had a medical abortion even after she was on birth control after I finished inside. She is also going to get more pills that help her start her period because she ran out and they do mess her cycle up. She told me it’s been about a month since her last period due to the pill messing up the cycle. I can’t help but be scared shitless of the consequences if she’s pregnant again. I don’t think I’ll be able to look at my parents in the eyes again because I’m such a failure for doing it again after they even told me to be more safe. All I need is some reassurance of it all? I did look up ways to tell or to further prevent it but online said there’s nothing that can be done to guarantee no pregnancy. Some reassurance would be greatly appreciated or a more professional opinion since I don’t want to believe AI.

[Heather]

Hey there, Prodda. Welcome to the boards.

I think that the best thing you can do for yourself and your partner, today, is to go out and get yourself some condoms and some lubricant to use with them from here on out.

I think taking a step you can to do your part to help prevent pregnancy moving forward, and so you can see that box, and see that you're doing what you can, can go a long way. If your partner previously got pregnant while being on the birth control pill, it's possible that happened because she's not been consistent taking it, which is a common problem, especially for younger people. And doing your part in an actually effective way -- withdrawal just isn't that -- can go a long way with a partner: it sucks to feel like you're on your own with pregnancy prevention. It feels a lot better when a partner is pitching in in an effective way, too. <3

Using Plan B -- unless your partner wants and is able to have a copper IUD placed -- is all either of you can do to prevent pregnancy at this point, and not only have you done it, you did it very quickly, so it's very unlikely she will become pregnant.

You also cannot tell if someone has become pregnant or not...well, until they are actually pregnant. Pregnancy doesn't happen instantly, it usually takes just inside a week, and until someone is past a first missed period, there are rarely any noticeable symptoms. Sometimes those can even take months. Taking a test in a couple of weeks is the way to tell.

Is there anything else we can help you with today?