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Assplay90
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My partner wants to finger me

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My partner wants to finger me and explore down there. I'm a little nervous as I have no experience with this. What supplies and positions should I be in? Latex exam gloves? I saw an enema in the drugstore. Should I get one? And how do I give myself one? I want our first time to be fun but also safe.
Thanks!
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Re: My partner wants to finger me

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Have you already looked at the material we have on the main site about anal sex?

As well, is this something YOU want to explore yourself, not just your partner?
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Assplay90
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Re: My partner wants to finger me

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I would also like to finger myself. I'm completely lost. Could you give me directions?
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Re: My partner wants to finger me

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This is one of those things where your best bet is just to experiment (either by yourself or with your partner) about what sensations feel good, since everybody's body is a little bit different. Too, as Heather mentioned, we have some info on the main site about anal sex (and out how to be safe in general). Have you taken a look at that?
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Heather
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Re: My partner wants to finger me

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I'm going to double down here and remind you about my requests you honor the agreement you made when registering and search the main site first before any more posts. It doesn't sound like you've yet done that, despite my requests.
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. - Margaret Mead
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