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Mgcc97
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Coming out

Unread post by Mgcc97 »

None of my friends or family know I'm a lesbian, I've been hiding it from them for almost 2 years now. I'm scared to let people know because I've always been a very closed and private person. I'm not happy with the persona I have built over the years and I want to be honest with everybody but where do I start? What if my family doesn't approve or what if I loose friends? How do you all of a sudden say your a lesbian? Please help.
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Sam W
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Re: Coming out

Unread post by Sam W »

Hi Mgcc,

It can definitely be an intimidating prospect to come out, and it would be disingenuous of me to say that sometimes coming out means losing people. But, on a more positive end, sometimes people can really surprise you and be super supportive. I think the place to start is by telling one or two people who think will be the most supportive, rather than trying to let everyone know all in one go. Do you have any thoughts on who those people might be for you?

I'll also give you this piece, as it's a great guide for how to come out: Don't Let the Door Hit You on the Way Out
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Mgcc97
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Joined: Tue Nov 10, 2015 8:39 pm
Age: 27
Awesomeness Quotient: Personality
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Sexual identity: Lesbian

Re: Coming out

Unread post by Mgcc97 »

Thank you I appreciate the advice! I'll definitely look into that article.
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Sam W
previous staff/volunteer
Posts: 10320
Joined: Mon Jul 28, 2014 9:06 am
Age: 33
Awesomeness Quotient: I raise carnivorous plants
Primary language: english
Pronouns: she/her
Sexual identity: queer
Location: Coast

Re: Coming out

Unread post by Sam W »

You're welcome! If you have any other questions or things you want to talk about, you can do that as well. I think we might also have a thread on the sexual identity part of the boards where people discuss their coming out stories, if that's something you'd find helpful.
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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