Question

[Audryll]

Hmm haven't been on here a lot. But,I have a question. I'm not quite sure if you guys could answer this though. This question is about my brother.. So..........the MAIN reason I don't wanna tell/report it's because I don't know if it's true or it's my mind messing with me. I really don't know. I mean, since it happened a few years back, how sure could I be tht this REALLY did happen. What if I got him in trouble for. NOTHING. I know something had happened but I'm not sure if it REALLY happened. That was why I wanted to talk to him about it. To kinda get his side of the story. I know this sounds very confusing. Sorry. But,should I trust my memories? He still touches me a lot, but just my butt and rubs my shoulder and back. (I don't know if tht's counted)

[Sam W]

Hi Audryll,

One way to think about it is that this would be an unlikely thing for you to imagine out of thin air, so there isn't a lot of reason to believe it didn't happen. That seems especially true if he still touches you a lot, and in ways that make you feel uncomfortable.

[Audryll]

Yeah well I guess that make sense. Would he had forgotten it though?

[Redskies]

People don't usually forget assaulting someone else, if that's what you were asking. Very rarely, someone may not remember if they were under the influence of some mind-altering substance or experiencing certain kinds of serious mental illness at the time. But, otherwise, the vast majority of the time, someone will remember assaulting another person.

What is common, though, is for a person to deny that they did it, or to claim that they don't remember. Either of those are much, much more likely than someone admitting they did it.