Can abuse be unintentional?

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Can abuse be unintentional?

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My boyfriend held me down and touched me without asking, but in the past, I had given him permission to do that. After asking him, he told me that it was what he thought I wanted. Can it still be sexual abuse even without him meaning for it to be? Even if he genuinely thought it was what i wanted?
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Re: Can abuse be unintentional?

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It is possible for someone not to realise that what they're doing is abusive, yes. Is this the first time your boyfriend has done something like this?
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