Can't Orgasm or Find Clitoris

[anonymousgirl15]

I am a 16 year old girl. I have tried many times to masturbate. I feel like I've tried everything (nipple stimulation, penetration w/ fingers, fingering clit, anal fingering, using a vibrator, and even rubbing my whole body with coconut oil) I can to orgasm and none of it has worked. I know a lot of forums say it takes time and practice, but I've spent upwards of 12 hours collectively exploring myself and nothing. I've experienced feelings of arousal and tried to explore them, but never had success orgasming.
Another issue I have is that I cannot find the clitoris. I've done extensive online research and I know where it should be, but all I can find is the hood, I've never been able to reach the clitoris itself. I've read that I should be able to find it by lifting/looking under the hood with my fingers, and I've tried this multiple times with no luck. I've tried using a vibrator around the general area, which feels ok, but not pleasurable. Please help. This issue has persisted for almost a year.

[Sam W]

Hi anonymousgir,

My first piece of advice is, when you masturbate,to focus less on orgasm and more on figuring out what feels pleasurable to your body. When you put a lot of pressure on yourself to climax, it can actually make it harder to do so because you get stressed out about not orgasming, which decreases pleasure. When you masturbate, do you feel like you're mentally aroused? And when you think of an orgasm, what are you assuming it will feel like?

When you're looking for your clitoris, are you using a mirror?