Although this has happened before and it’s been 2 and a half months since I’ve felt any kind of sexual contact from him. So I got upset and didn’t want to talk to him because I had no explanation for this sudden change other than he wasn’t sexually attracted to me.
Through talking he explained that his sexual desire dies out through a relationship and he just rarely gets horny. This came as a surprise to me because he has always initiated sexual talk or contact but I respect that. He also says it’s linked to his dysphoria which obviously I can respect and understand.
The problem is I view sex as something I want in a relationship. It’s something I enjoy but it’s mainly the purest form of intimacy with someone I love and I’ve learnt not to be ashamed of the fact that I want my sexual needs fulfilled.
So this is where it gets difficult
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How in the world do I work around this? Obviously convincing him to have sex is off the table because that’s non consensual and not something I think is right. So that leaves two options.
1, I compromise everything I want and never feel fulfilled.
Or,
2, we open up the relationship. However he has made it very clear that he doesn’t want this and I’m so in love with him that I have no idea if I would ever be able to have sex with someone else.
Can anyone please help? - T