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Stressful night

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thewrit3r
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Stressful night

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Last night I went dancing with some friends at a social. It was a lot of fun but then I saw one of my friends come in and she was really drunk. When I went to hug her, she was literally stumbling and couldn’t really control her body movements.

Thankfully she came with friends so they were watching her. But I still wanted to keep an eye on her so I would check in on her now and then.

When I checked on her again she was laying down, at some point it looked like she had been unconscious because I saw friends carrying her. I was freaking out I didn’t know if I needed to call 911 or not. I asked a friend what to do and she told me to get another friend. I did but then I didn’t see my friend or the friends she came with. I figured she went with her friends, but I was still freaking out.

This was eventually confirmed and I felt better, but it still was a very stressful situation. I texted her this morning to check up on her and she said she was fine and asked why I was worried. I asked her if she remembered going out last night and she said she didn’t go out last night.

I talked with my mom about it and I know it wasn’t me so I can’t actually know what she was going through so maybe I’m overreacting to the whole thing. However I’ve been drunk once and it felt awful. I felt so unbalanced and it freaks me out that I couldn’t remember some things I said that night. To not remember anything that happened last night scares me.

But my friend is okay and I guess I am projecting how she feels. I’m sure this has happened before but it’s the first time it’s happened to me so it’s just a bit shocking. I guess there’s nothing really to do but process what happened.

Sorry for the post being so long. I felt like I needed to get it out. I think I’m doing better now just talking about it a little :)
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Re: Stressful night

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Hi thewrit3r,

That does sound like a stressful situation! I'm glad everyone is okay, and that writing about it here helped you feel better. I think you're right that most of what's left to do is process how you felt about this, although if you're pretty close to the friend who was drunk I think it's okay to mention (if you haven't already) that she did in fact go out last night and why you were worried about her.
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thewrit3r
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Re: Stressful night

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Hi Sam,

I did mention to her that she seemed out of it (I said she didn’t seem like she was feeling well) but I didn’t outright say she was drunk. I don’t know, that sounds more accusing than concerned but I feel like she has a right to know.

She just texted me back that her meds were the reason she was out of it, saying she knew she didn’t drink that much. But I know certain medications mix very badly with alcohol, and you can’t always judge what’s “too much” to drink especially if you’re young, and in her case, underage (she’s 18).
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