Scarleteen

Hey,
I’m 18 - still virgin.
I masturbate, but I reach an orgasm before I can cum. I’ve never cummed while masturbating. That’s been all I want. To cum. It’s not happening. I can just orgasm. If it helps, I rub my clit & finger myself sometimes. But I’m yet to come doing so. I can orgasm in like 3-5 minutes & so I’ve never cummed. I really want to. Please let me know how I can reach this

Hi Anon1234,

I'm trying to understand what you feel is missing from masturbation for you when you say you don't cum. Many people understand to cum to mean to orgasm, but I hear you saying you are reaching orgasm. Do you mean that you want to ejaculate?

If so, we have some info on ejaculation here: Squirt: On Ejaculation

Not everyone with a vulva will ejaculate, and many of those that do won't ejaculate every time they orgasm. I think the important thing to take away from that article is that ejaculation is largely involuntary - not something most people can control completely. Can you tell me more about why this is so important to you?