That outline is wonderful. You are giving her space to talk, react, express her feelings, but also establishing boundaries. You're right that it's both valid for her to cry/express guilt, and not your responsibility to take that on, considering you're the one who was hurt. Ultimately, it's up to you...

That makes a lot of sense! I'm glad talking it out with us helped you figure that out and get some clarity. We are always here to talk or listen.

Hi Theansweris42, it's nice hearing from you! I'm sorry to hear things haven't gotten better at home, though. I was hoping you could tell us more about the control your parents have on where you travel to. Of course it's normal for parents to worry and want to know where their kids (even their adult...

I'm so glad it was helpful! I do think going back to a therapist would be a good thing to try, because they could help you work through the shame and anxiety that's causing all of this. We're always here too if you need to vent or ask any questions! <3

This is SUCH a silly answer, but when Britney Spears and Madonna kissed at the 2003 VMAs...it was like "oh. THAT'S what I want to do. interesting", so yes, two straight women helped me realize I wasn't straight. The irony!

My suggestion is the same as Carly's, to see a medical professional before self-diagnosing or starting any treatment. My concern with stretching exercises off the internet is that they might not apply to your specific situation (be it phimosis or not), so they could cause more damage than good. It's...

Honestly, I think it's okay to sort of sugarcoat the truth (that you want a moderator because you're worried about her reaction) so that, like you said, she isn't offended and already defensive since the start. I know lying is never ideal or good, but sometimes with things like these it's best to ju...

That's a good idea! I hope it goes well, you're handling this very well.

Hi there, welcome to the boards! I'm glad to hear our resources have been so helpful to you. I believe you're talking about the following article: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You Think You Are? I also advice (if you haven't) to read through this one, and scroll to the bottom where there are more res...

Hi Jessiepinkman, welcome to the boards! I'm so sorry this has been really stressful and frustrating for you. What I'm about to say may or may not be helpful, but it's the truth you should know: this is actually not rare...at all! We get a lot of people with very similar questions on here - as a mat...

Yeah, in that case it's best to be subtle at first, because you don't want to make her uncomfortable or put her in a tough position if she turned you down a few months ago and you ask again. Perhaps also wait it out a bit, if she's showing signs she likes you then you can let it develop naturally an...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! We're not here to tell you what your sexuality or sexual orientation is, because only you can decide that. We can help point you in the right direction to get more clarity and make that decision. That being said, sexuality is fluid and can change throughout your life...

Hi Opal, Have you tried all the suggestions in the article? What works for some doesn't work for all and for many people, visual media doesn't arouse them. Music, closing your eyes and letting your imagination run wild, or even engaging yourself in dirty talk are all options lots of people use inste...

Hi Raffles, would it be practical to write down what you plan on saying beforehand, perhaps? Also, I know in-person is best, but maybe you could meet with B over the phone instead. This way you can even have your points in front of you in case you get too anxious, and it will also be easier to diffu...

Hi DiverDoubt, welcome to the boards! What you're going through can be confusing at times, leaving you feeling like your gender identity is weird or rare. Truth be told, it isn't as rare as you'd think (and not weird at all)! How you label or classify yourself is entirely up to you, as you know, and...

So, I'm wondering, do you feel that if she acknowledges her actions you can get back together and all the other problems will be solved? If you believe she can change AND you can move past what she did without it being a constant cloud over the relationship, then maybe the answer is yes. I ask so yo...

Glad to hear it went well for you and he didn't get defensive, that's a good sign. It's always okay for couples to talk about issues in the relationship such as specific things they're unhappy with or that concern them, as long as you're doing it with respect and transparency.

Hi there, welcome to the boards! The thought of pap smears can be scary for many people, especially if tampons are painful or uncomfortable. I'm not going to lie and say you absolutely will not feel any discomfort, because most physical discomfort people experience during a pap smear comes from bein...

Oof, that's a really rough conclusion to come to, for both you of course and your ex. I can imagine it's hard because you don't want her to go through an abusive relationship, but it seems like even if you tell her she might not believe you at this time. Do you think there's any other way you can he...

Hi Phantompains, welcome to the boards. I'm sorry this is causing you some anxiety, I'll start with talking about the condom incident because we don't want that to keep happening. Condoms slipping off like that sometimes happens because the condom is too large or doesn't fit properly, so I'd recomme...

Yep, it's not uncommon for them to be lighter some months and heavier other months. If your symptoms are the same as common menstruation symptoms, that would explain that.

Hi vidvoop. You know, these are both actually quite common questions people have, especially if it's one of their first relationships ever. Right now we see the whole "red flag" thing all over the internet, often as a joke but sometimes not, and while I think it's super important to educat...

Hi there, welcome to the boards! What you experienced could've been ejaculation, sometimes it can be quite a lot and can smell like pee, too. It could've also been urine, but there's no way to tell. It's more common than you'd think, for both of those, and since they're pretty similar it's hard to t...

I, too, am really proud of you, Mixxes. Like Sam said, I'm sort of relieved because you were clearly struggling and your partner wasn't being good to you, and you deserve better. I'm glad you know that and you have a plan moving forward to work on yourself. We're always here for support, venting, et...

Oh, this is amazing! I'm so so glad you're feeling better about the whole situation and it sounds lke you have a really healthy perspective now. Your singleness absolutely does not affect your self-worth, and I'm proud of you for recognizing that! Thanks for the kind words, too. <3