Hey rocko -- there's a lot here that we can talk about, but I'm going to start with the advice you specifically asked for about hygiene. The first thing I want to mention here is that bodies naturally have odors and we all smell a little different. It's not possible to be completely free of any kind...

Hey Feluxedesiri -- I think this sounds like a good decision given the situation. Do you have a plan for how you want to distance yourself from her?

Hey mygingerfro -- when you say you feel like you won't let go enough, are you talking about feeling anxious? What makes you think you won't be able to relax?

Hey sebby -- the short answer is no, of course not. I think it's great that you're thinking critically about this topic, but I don't think you need to worry as much. Pornography, both in general and hardcore BDSM stuff you're describing, cannot cause the "damage" you're concerned about all...

Hey Theansweris42 -- up top I want to say that I don't think you need to blame yourself for making this situation complicated. I don't see this as something you've done to anyone but rather a complex, emotional human situation you are all in together. I think the best thing to do here is to talk to ...

Hey Raffles -- up top I wanted to say that I think you're a very good communicator and I don't think your recent posts were argumentative. Sometimes disagreements can feel that way, especially online, but I think you're being clear. Something else I wanted to bring up is that you originally created ...

Hey Raffles -- Something I'm seeing in your recent posts here is that though you don't want to be your friend's live-in therapist, you're also willing to do that because you feel bad she can't talk to her own therapist. Something I have noticed from all of your threads and posts is that you are very...

Hey Edhelraen -- believe it or not, the clearer your urine is the better your body is doing most of the time! Urobilin/urochrome is what turns urine the yellow-y colors we're all used to, and it dilutes the more water you drink. When your urine is clear or close to it, this is a sign your body is we...

Ah, I see. I do think getting distracted by anything - especially anxious thoughts - can lead to some some difficulties feeling pleasure. Again, the brain does so much for us during sexual activity that wandering away from the task at hand mentally can make a huge difference. Something that we see h...

Hey iloveeveryone -- the steamer machines are relatively newer to the market so I'm leaning a little bit heavier on the information I can find online to answer your question and weeding out sources that are clearly biased towards their own product. It sounds like these little machines do work pretty...

Hey dependantdragon -- I'm not totally sure what the resources Elise shared can offer, but telehealth appointments might be an option for your boyfriend. He can be wherever he needs to be to receive treatment. This medium took off during the roughest parts of the pandemic and has been continued by a...

Hey mangomangomango -- welcome to the boards. And no worries about grammar or anything, I think you did great! What you're describing is one of the most common things users write in to us to talk about on the boards. Our bodies are all so different, so sometimes it can be hard to tell someone exactl...

Hi slipperys1ope -- welcome to the board. I wanted to check in about the bleeding first - if blood is literally gushing out like you've been injured, you absolutely need to seek medical attention. Especially if you're feeling pain in any way. We are unable to diagnose what's happening online, but if...

Hey RowleinL -- welcome to the boards. I'm happy to help answer some of these questions. It sounds like you are describing edging, is that right? There no serious health risks associated with that. Occasionally, it can cause epididymal hypertension, aka "blue balls." This will feel like pa...

Hi yadiq -- I'm glad you've recognized that your anxiety about pregnancy is serious enough to see a psychologist. The first thing I'm going to tell you here is that you cannot get pregnant after touching something sperm might have been on and then masturbating. Sperm do not survive on surfaces for v...

Hi Raffles -- I agree, it sounds like we're at a logistical end of the thread. We don't have to continue talking about it, but I wanted to chime in and say that it's normal and ok to feel hurt after being vulnerable and someone being unable to engage back. I don't think you need to ever feel bad abo...

I hear what you're saying, happymonk13. I also want to say that, based on how you're talking about it, it does sound like you're experiencing from frustration. You're talking about feeling annoyed and what you think should be happening, maybe some mild resentment for your body doing something you're...

Hey happymonk13 -- welcome to the boards! Struggling to orgasm is a really common issue our users bring here. The first thing I always bring up to folks is how being aware of the struggle itself can get in the way of finishing, both with a partner or by yourself. Frustration, confusion, or pressure ...

Hey Tery -- yep! I wouldn't say they're harmful outright, you just need to use flavored lube for its intended purposes.

Hey amberrobert -- it's totally ok to vent here, I'm so sorry this situation is so complicated. It sounds like you know A's tendencies well - though I think it's good to check up on her and be there for her as much as you can, it's important to also understand her boundaries as well. Is she self-awa...

Hey iloveeveryone -- ultimately you're the expert on your parents here, not us. If your gut feeling is not to discuss it with them, that's totally ok! There are some issues in my life I've chosen to not confront my parents about because I know they won't be receptive to hearing my feedback and won't...

Hey Oynx -- Based on what you've said, I do not believe just talking to this general/"body" doctor is enough to sort through how you're feeling. I do believe she can help with some preliminary things, but at the end of the day you would be better matched with someone who has a deeper speci...

Hey JT_B -- up top I want to thank you for trusting us with your story, it sounds like this is a deeply personal topic for you. There can be so much stigma around this, and I know how hard it can be to open up sometimes. Your doctor isn't just trying to comfort you, this is definitely something that...

Hey Oynx -- Thanks for clarifying what the doctor said, I just misunderstood what she said and wanted to make sure. It sounds like she offered you a great deal of autonomy, which is great. Would you like to see a therapist? If you do, maybe you can get some help from this doctor to help advocate for...

Hey quoteromantic -- I see where your concerns are. I think the best next step is to talk to him directly about what you've said here, I think you did a really good job of laying it all out. Though he seemed dismissive before, it sounds like he is generally pretty mindful of safety. Telling him dire...