Hello, Mari I'm glad that you're feeling a bit better about this! You know, I think the general consensus here is that you don't need to worry about your sexual thoughts being bad or gross or weird. For one, just having thoughts can't cause harm- it is our actions that matter. Also, we can feel arou...

Hello Jay27 Sometimes couples do take breaks in these situations. Honestly, I think it is up to the people in a relationship to determine what such breaks might entail- so it doesn't have to be a complete breakup if you two don't want that. Just to make sure, have you already spoken to your girlfrie...

Hi there, Mari! Don't worry, this makes sense. I can understand why this would be concerning, but I think you can go ahead and just treat it as a weird thing your mind came up with- it really does not have to mean anything at all. Let me assure you that such thoughts are not that unusual- people jus...

Hi there, Rachel 1 Ah, you don't need to apologize! You're right- broadly, aromanticism describes a lack of interest in romantic relationships, and just as with asexuality, there is a spectrum for aromanticism as well. Is it possible that you're aromantic? You're the only one who can say that for su...

Hi there lb07- welcome to the boards!

You're right, this is pretty normal, and it isn't something you need to worry about. And yes, hormones are one thing that could be influencing your interest in sex. Let us know if you have any other questions.

Hi there, tryingmybest20! Hmm, I can see why you would worry about that. Here is the thing, bleeding during pregnancy is different from menstruation in certain ways- like when it happens, and how long it lasts. Since you've had your period twice, it is a pretty good indication that you are not pregn...

Hi there, Apurvax- welcome to the boards! From what I understand of your question, I think there isn't a risk of pregnancy here. Still, it is important to make sure condoms fit well. Perhaps your partner could try a smaller size of condom- that could prevent it from slipping. (Just in case you'd lik...

Hi Charlotte247! Sorry it has taken a while for us to respond- you might have seen that we were on break. I'm glad this helped a little- yes, it can be difficult to tell the difference between intrusive thoughts and real thoughts. About the iceberg theory: don't worry, that does make sense, and I ca...

Hi there, SillyMcGoof

Ah, I understand not wanting to talk to your mom about this kind of thing. Don't worry, your turtle and the other animals should be fine.

Hi there, Charlotte247- welcome to the boards! I'm glad you feel comfortable talking about this difficult topic here, and I'm sorry all this has been making you feel so awful. As I see it, there are a few questions here: Was what happened COCSA? Are you justified in feeling bad because of what happe...

Hi there, Eliziaenlope- welcome to the boards! Ah, people come here fairly often with this kind of problem. While I can't give you a specific set of instructions that will make masturbation feel pleasurable (because different things work for different people), let me assure you that with some patien...

he asked "but why do you hate the guy? what did he do to you" and it hurts that he'll only know the proper answer to this question once he gets older Oh, that really would be painful. So, to touch back on what you said in your first post ("also i wonder, why did i still hang around w...

Hi there, Soupdispenser- welcome to the boards! Losing AC must have been so uncomfortable- it's great that's fixed now. It is true that heat can make birth control pills less effective, but they won't stop working entirely in the conditions that you mentioned. I'd suggest that you continue to take t...

Hi there, Lyle Lanley I'm sorry that these things have happened to you, and that your mother dismissed you when you asked her for support- that's awful. I think it is really understandable that you kept spending time with this guy. You were close friends, you were even in a relationship from time to...

Hi there, Lyle Lanley! Don't worry, this question isn't stupid. I think one of the reasons you're finding it difficult to find an answer is because there isn't a clear, universally applicable one. We can generalize a little bit, but there isn't really a set formula for how people come. In general , ...

Hi there, Naomz- welcome to the boards! I believe you when you say you've tried a lot of different things- this must be so frustrating! Just to make sure we're on the same page, I have a few questions. Could you give us a sense of what you've tried on your own? Does penetration hurt when you try it ...

Do you think you could tell her about this? Perhaps you could tell her something along the lines of, "I've been worried about pressuring you when I express attraction to you. Would it be alright if I asked for reassurance about this when I'm feeling that way?" If you explain and ask her be...

I'm glad the articles were so helpful! i never had any intimate experience so i'm also scared i won't be able to communicate with them. Are there any specific situations that you're worried about? As I understand, communicating with a partner isn't all that different from communicating with other pe...

Hi Naurmi Well, you're justified in feeling angry at him because he is being really awful- consent isn't the absence of a no, it is a clear, enthusiastic yes. He is just giving excuses. Honestly, I think feeling angry when you were feeling sad before makes sense- both are understandable responses Re...

Hmmm, I can definitely see how you'd feel that way- you care about her, and don't want her to feel uncomfortable or intimidated. The thing is, I don't think the mere fact of expressing your attraction would make you a creep, especially in a relationship where you both value communication and respect...

Hi there, Spottedowl- that's great news, congratulations!

Hi there, Elliohnnie- welcome to the boards! Don't worry, you aren't too old for this forum. There are a number of reasons why you could be struggling with your arousal all of a sudden- it can fluctuate during different periods of our lives, due to factors like hormones, stress, and medications. And...

Hi there, pyc18! Well you're right! Masturbation is normal, it is a good way to feel pleasure and relax, and it is something that many people explore. I also want to point out that it isn't something you have to do, and it isn't something you have to figure out on some sort of schedule. You are not ...

Hi 55,

You don't have to worry. The concern about massaging the injection site is only for some time after the injection, as Sam mentioned. There is definitely no risk a few weeks later.

Hi there, Cuteduck I'm glad the DIY sex toy article was useful, and I hope it helps! Something else you can look into is engaging with sexual fantasy. We have an article that discusses that: How to Approach Sexual Fantasy and Desire on Your Own Terms Would you read it and let us know what you think?