Hi Crow! Fair enough, you don't have to involve anyone else if it doesn't feel right. Since there isn't much that helps you in the moment, do you think it would help to plan in advance to give yourself what you need? You could make your room or bed very comfortable, and make sure you have things lik...

Hi Whytho, Heather is not here right now, but this is what I think they mean. Sexual pleasure does not have to involve the genitals - you must have heard people speak of other erogenous zones on the body, like the palms, neck, or thighs. That is a short list, because skin can be pretty sensitive eve...

Hi Coolgirl1219! I get why you're not sure, there isn't a very obvious difference there. But we don't need to be certain, because it doesn't really change the kind of advice I would give you. It is possible to make orgasms feel stronger, but there isn't any one way that works for everybody. Generall...

Hi BabyKay, welcome to the boards! It sounds like your partner really cares about making sure you feel pleasure during sex, but he has this idea that being a good partner means he has to make you orgasm. I can see how that would cause some tension! I know orgasms can seem very important, but they do...

Hi Amazingstar344!

We can definitely respond to your question, but I want to check something. Your last post was on a similar subject, and Willa responded to you with some suggestions. Were you able to try them? I just don't want to recommend things that you've already heard.

Hi Jakelyn99, welcome to the boards! This situation does present a mild to moderate risk of pregnancy. There isn't any risk from dry humping as sperm can't pass through clothing, but there is some risk with genital rubbing. While there is some evidence that the morning after pill is less effective a...

Hi Coolgirl2129, welcome to the boards! Don't lose hope! Your experience of sex and pleasure can change throughout your life - if something hasn't happened yet, it does not mean it will never happen. You may need some trial and error and patience, but most likely, it will be possible for you to find...

Hello Rodya, You don't actually have the obligation to come out to your parents, but I understand why you would want to, and why you feel guilty that you haven't told them yet. I don't think you sound spineless or melodramatic- it is natural that you want your parents to understand and accept you, a...

Hi Leopard96! and I want to figure myself out before committing to something I don't like as much Just to clarify, what would you be committing to? I agree with Andy - you don't have to participate in any activity that leaves you with feelings of wrongness, guilt, and regret. It is definitely possib...

Hi Berkeley2003! What do you think people will need to do to adapt to your changes? To me, it doesn't sound like a great hardship. I understand your concern about not being romantically desirable, but I think you should go ahead regardless. There are people in the world who look down on gender non-c...

Hi Claire2swag, Oof, I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing pain! For what it is worth, you don't need to worry about pregnancy here: beyond the fact that you had a negative test, if you've had your period you can be pretty confident that you are not pregnant. This is because periods happen when...

Hi SilllyMcGoof, Of course, we can discuss it later. By the way, you are not obligated to answer such questions. What do you think of speaking to your stepmother first? At least, she might be able to give you an idea of your mother's position on this. She could also bring this up with your mother to...

Hi there, Wanjiee! I think his behavior is strange. You say he knows that you are friends, but he doesn't seem to act like one. Friends are usually supportive and kind to each other. He may have helped you with money, but he also takes offense when you say no or set simple boundaries, and he doesn't...

Hi SillyMcGoof, You know, getting hurt is not the only possibility. What if it is not a facade when someone is interested in you? What if being open to these relationships could make you really happy? I understand the instinct to protect yourself from getting hurt, but try to factor the chance that ...

Hi Random! Don't worry about the duplicate post, it is alright. I think it is definitely possible for you to start feeling arousal in the future, even though you've never felt it before. You're on the right track- give yourself more time to explore what leads to arousal and pleasure for you. I think...

Hi Fresariver! Your description makes sense, don't worry. I think this may have been an off-day or period for your body. It can be surprising when our bodies don't fuction as they usually do, but it doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong. Things like a lack of sleep or stress can cause this, bu...

Hi SillyMcGoof, glad to see you again! Don't worry about not responding for a while- we're always here. It seems like feelings of fear, anxiety, and discomfort are something of a common thread in your posts. I think we have an article that tries to address those feelings in relation to exploring sex...

Hi Telefrog, Good luck with the conversation! One thing I want to add: Again I don't really see a resolution but I know that more than anything she wants me to be happy. She may offer to adjust her position on porn use because she cares for you, but I'm not sure that will address all of your concern...

Hi Telefrog, welcome to the boards! I do have some other thoughts, but I’ll try to address your question first. Generally speaking, we don’t think it is wrong for people to be interested in porn. We know that plenty of people watch and read porn without hurting their relationships. If someone watche...

Hi Jimmy Jim, welcome to the boards! It must be very painful to think that you might have hurt someone, especially since you've experienced abuse too. I hope we can help, because as I understand it, what happened between you and the other kid does not sound like sexual abuse. Let's talk about COCSA ...

Hi Meadowlarking,

We can definitely talk about ways to reduce feelings of shame and embarassment. To start, do you have a sense of where these feelings are coming from? What thoughts come to mind when you read or watch things?

Hi Meadowlarking, welcome to the boards! It might help to use some kind of sexual media- that is, listen to, read, or watch something sexual- while you masturbate. What do you think of this? (You can speak to your doctor if your medication is making it difficult for you to enjoy sex or orgasm. They ...

Hi Fresariver, welcome to the boards! I understand that this is a sensitive topic, and I'm glad you felt comfortable talking about it here. I think there are many lesbians who would be able to relate to your experiences with boys. It can be hard to understand and distinguish between different kinds ...

Hi Axolotlperson, I understand why you're concerned- your friend is experiencing neglect and emotional abuse, and she deserves better. You've mentioned that your parents and many other trusted adults know about this situation. Do you have a sense of how they view this and what they've considered doi...

Hi Axolotlperson! In many cases, getting blood clots during a period isn't a cause for concern. Clots may just be regular mentrual flow mixed with endometrial tissue or thick discharge. But sometimes blood clots can indicate a medical condition that needs attention. By your description, it does soun...