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by Latha
Sun Apr 21, 2024 3:10 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Being away from friends for short periods is really hard
Replies: 2
Views: 149

Re: Being away from friends for short periods is really hard

Hi AQ! I haven't experienced this myself, so I hope other staff or readers on the boards will contribute. I do have some thoughts, though. I don't think it is a bad idea to tell your friends how much you value them and enjoy their company. If you don't usually talk about things like depression, you ...
by Latha
Sun Apr 21, 2024 3:10 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: possibility of repressed trauma
Replies: 2
Views: 129

Re: possibility of repressed trauma

Hi there, Maroonteen I'm sorry you're struggling with this- wrestling with the possibility that you might have experienced sexual abuse must be so frustrating and confusing, especially since you've long experienced disassociation. I think we should acknowledge that you may not be able to find the pr...
by Latha
Sun Apr 21, 2024 3:00 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Hiv risks
Replies: 5
Views: 134

Re: Hiv risks

Hi Luciefer,

I think that still leaves a chance for fluid exchange. How do you feel about Sam's suggestion? Do you think you can contact this girl to ask her about her HIV status?
by Latha
Sat Apr 20, 2024 1:44 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pain/pink cum when masturbating??
Replies: 9
Views: 351

Re: Pain/pink cum when masturbating??

Hi Anonnymous20

If fear from this incident keeps you from visiting the doctor when it could help you, it is no small matter. You don't have to tell us anything about this incident, but if you do, maybe we could offer some advice or validation.
by Latha
Fri Apr 19, 2024 1:58 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Pain/pink cum when masturbating??
Replies: 9
Views: 351

Re: Pain/pink cum when masturbating??

Hi Anonnymous20! I think a scratch could cause both the blood you noticed and some burning or itching as it heals. If the burning isn't very uncomfortable, I think you can give it a few days to see if the sensation goes away on its own. If I may ask, why don't you want to see a healthcare profession...
by Latha
Sun Apr 14, 2024 2:48 am
Forum: Supporting Each Other
Topic: please tell me if i am okay
Replies: 1
Views: 169

Re: please tell me if i am okay

Hi there, PomPom You don't need to be in complete crisis to deserve support. It doesn't have to be TOO BAD. You are not overthinking this- you should not have to feel this unmotivated, tired, overwhelmed, or hopeless about the future. It is clear that you're struggling right now, so you deserve supp...
by Latha
Sun Apr 14, 2024 2:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: hypersexuality on HRT?
Replies: 1
Views: 206

Re: hypersexuality on HRT?

Hi Bowler, I'm sorry you've been struggling with this! A higher libido is a somewhat common side effect of taking testosterone HRT. I can't say if this will happen for you, but it is possible. But as Mo suggested in this thread , the effect of HRT effect on your feelings may be short-lived: your bod...
by Latha
Sat Apr 13, 2024 2:27 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Doubt about contraceptive pills and doctors
Replies: 4
Views: 670

Re: Doubt about contraceptive pills and doctors

Hi Coolrainbow111, That is a very common experience- it can be really intimidating to speak to doctors, to ask questions or request a different kind of care. Understandably, your mind blanked. Practice and experience will make it easier for you to advocate for yourself. Try to remember that while do...
by Latha
Sat Apr 13, 2024 2:26 am
Forum: Site Help & Service
Topic: “Edit notification options” goes to a blank page
Replies: 3
Views: 591

Re: “Edit notification options” goes to a blank page

Hi AQ!

I have asked about this on the teams' Slack- someone should get back to you with an answer.
by Latha
Sat Apr 13, 2024 2:25 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Strong emotional attraction and low physical attraction to romantic crush - don’t know what to do
Replies: 2
Views: 562

Re: Strong emotional attraction and low physical attraction to romantic crush - don’t know what to do

Hi there, AQ! It sounds like you have a great connection with this person! Here are some questions you can ask yourself: what kind of relationship do you envision yourself having with her? Would this relationship be sexual? How important is it to you that you feel visually attracted to your partner?...
by Latha
Fri Apr 12, 2024 2:11 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: I feel like I'm going crazy
Replies: 7
Views: 694

Re: I feel like I'm going crazy

Hi Suomi! We certainly don't hate you, and I don't think anyone who understands the nature of kink and fantasies would hate you. I'm sorry you feel like you are bottling this up, and that it makes you feel so awful. Maybe reframing how you think about this will make you feel better. You're not keepi...
by Latha
Fri Apr 12, 2024 1:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Doubt about contraceptive pills and doctors
Replies: 4
Views: 670

Re: Doubt about contraceptive pills and doctors

Hi Coolrainbow111, I'm sorry you didn't feel reassured by your visit with the gynecologist! The first few months of taking a new medication like birth control can be a period of adjustment where you might experience some negative side effects. But there are definitely things you can do if that happe...
by Latha
Sun Apr 07, 2024 3:15 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)
Replies: 10
Views: 838

Re: Dealing with violence thoughts / fantasies (on me)

Hi Kittylemon0- welcome to the boards! Don't worry about rambling, it is okay. To start, I hope you know that you don't have to feel ashamed for having fantasies with violent elements. Plenty of people have them and while they exist in your mind, these fantasies can't actually hurt anyone. But I und...
by Latha
Sun Apr 07, 2024 1:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unable to obtain penetration
Replies: 10
Views: 868

Re: Unable to obtain penetration

Hi archanana! Your description doesn't seem unusual to me. Having a retroverted uterus can sometimes cause pain during sex in certain positions, but it shouldn't prevent you from having sex altogether. It is good that you're using lube- remember that it cannot hurt to use more of it. Cuddling is a g...
by Latha
Sun Apr 07, 2024 1:50 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months
Replies: 21
Views: 8090

Re: 20 year old female, issues with masturbating and finishing for months

Hi there, PleaseHelpAsap

That seems so frustrating and annoying. Just to check, have you seen a doctor to rule out any physiological issues? Sometimes having a hormonal imbalance or an illness like diabetes can cause difficulties in experiencing pleasure.
by Latha
Sat Apr 06, 2024 1:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?
Replies: 10
Views: 815

Re: Do other lesbians practice safer sex? Will it be weird for me to ask?

Hi Jay27, When you worry about getting another illness, it may help to remind yourself that you do have resources that you can use to handle that, like the college health center and planned parenthood clinic that you mentioned. While there are always some risks, you will be able to handle them, and ...
by Latha
Sat Apr 06, 2024 1:42 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Wanting to date, but not feeling like I should post-breakup?
Replies: 7
Views: 515

Re: Wanting to date, but not feeling like I should post-breakup?

Hi there, forest_wave If you want, you can talk to us about your concerns regarding long-term relationships- we may be able to offer some advice. Something I've noticed is that your divergent thoughts are not necessarily mutually exclusive. You can date and meet new people even if you are not lookin...
by Latha
Fri Apr 05, 2024 2:28 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: can't finger myself. vaginismus?
Replies: 16
Views: 4180

Re: can't finger myself. vaginismus?

Hi Lyle Lanley, While some discomfort is to be expected, you shouldn't push yourself to continue if you're feeling pain. Just to clarify, did you feel reassured because you were concerned you couldn't insert your fingers at all? some vaginas had similar stuff as mine yet they were not labeled as hav...
by Latha
Fri Apr 05, 2024 2:03 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: Ex
Replies: 1
Views: 290

Re: Ex

Hi there, Ms. Candy. I understand why you sent him a question mark, this is some confusing behavior! I can't say for sure why this boy hasn't responded to you- he could have forgotten to check that account, he might not know how to respond, or he might have stopped checking after some time, as you s...
by Latha
Fri Apr 05, 2024 2:03 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Period
Replies: 3
Views: 765

Re: Period

Hi Ms Candy, Don't worry, I don't think the issues with your period are related to alcohol. In case you're concerned about this, healthcare providers don't usually report underage drinking by adults. If they ask about alcohol or drug use, they may just want to check for interactions with any medicat...
by Latha
Fri Apr 05, 2024 1:56 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Unable to obtain penetration
Replies: 10
Views: 868

Re: Unable to obtain penetration

Hi archanana, welcome to the boards! I understand how it would be so anxiety inducing to have these sorts of difficulties when it feels like you're running out of time, but don't worry- it is unlikely that this structure will prevent you from getting pregnant. Would you describe how this structure f...
by Latha
Sun Mar 31, 2024 3:46 am
Forum: Bodies
Topic: 27 years old virgin with 3.2 In penis thinking of marriage
Replies: 1
Views: 796

Re: 27 years old virgin with 3.2 In penis thinking of marriage

Hi Plunger, welcome to the boards! I can see why you're worried about this. We live in cultures that place a lot of emphasis on penis size, linking larger size to greater sexual skill and masculinity. I understand how it would be so upsetting to think that your body doesn't meet those standards, esp...
by Latha
Sun Mar 31, 2024 3:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: i want sex but crush is ace
Replies: 3
Views: 544

Re: i want sex but crush is ace

Hi there, Lyle! While we do say things like there's no rush to reassure people who are worried about not having certain experiences yet, it is perfectly reasonable that you want to have sexual experiences, and you will likely be able to have them. So, should you pursue this girl? I think the answer ...
by Latha
Sat Mar 30, 2024 1:12 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I know if she is too old for me?
Replies: 2
Views: 416

Re: How do I know if she is too old for me?

Hi there, Raine Don't worry! The fact that this girl has graduated and you haven't may present some small logistical difficulties, but the age gap isn't especially weird. Since you're interested in her, you could just chill and see what happens. Or you could try to reciprocate a little and see how s...
by Latha
Sat Mar 30, 2024 1:09 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fingering
Replies: 3
Views: 673

Re: Fingering

Hi Jasscales! Don't worry, it is definitely possible for you to experience pleasure from masturbation. These sorts of difficulties are fairly common, and are usually resolvable with some time and trial and error. I have two more questions: Do you usually feel lubricated when you try to masturbate? A...