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- Tue Jun 11, 2024 7:37 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Question about Fingering and Semen
- Replies: 15
- Views: 288
Re: Question about Fingering and Semen
I don't know that I'd think of this as roulette, honestly. But for sure, if we want the methods of birth control or STI prevention we're using to be the most effective they can be, it's important we use them correctly. I do also want to add that it doesn't matter how much of the penis is inserted in...
- Tue Jun 11, 2024 6:55 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Question about Fingering and Semen
- Replies: 15
- Views: 288
Re: Question about Fingering and Semen
So, unless your partner has had regular cycles for at least a few years and knows how to track her ovulation, there's really no point in trying to figure any of this out around that. That's just going to be so speculative as to be useless. Plus, if this is something that already happened, there's no...
- Tue Jun 11, 2024 6:36 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Question about Fingering and Semen
- Replies: 15
- Views: 288
Re: Question about Fingering and Semen
This presents the same small risk of pregnancy that any exposure to pre-ejaculate does, and, perhaps obviously, would also present possible STI risks. So, when and if a condom is put on the worng way, you never want to do that. Instead, you want to toss that condom and use a fresh one.
- Tue Jun 11, 2024 6:34 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: My parents don't want me to have sex
- Replies: 22
- Views: 797
Re: My parents don't want me to have sex
I'm so glad you have the support of your older sister, Renee. I think it's great that you can stay with her so you can have some autonomy and independence, whether it influences your parents behaviour or not.
- Sun Jun 02, 2024 12:26 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Boundaries?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 78
Re: Boundaries?
Hi there, Mary. You know, I don't think it is out of bounds to ask about working for him again, and I also don't think it's out of bounds if you want to try and continue to build the relationship you were with him. After all, you two had your own relationship that may have been because of him dating...
- Sun Jun 02, 2024 12:21 pm
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Wanting a higher sex drive and appreciation of sexy stuff
- Replies: 6
- Views: 331
Re: Wanting a higher sex drive and appreciation of sexy stuff
Hey there, ConfusedGrape. :) So, this: I feel I only start to notice myself getting more stimulated (either mentally or physically) after we actually start where I'm pleasing her and I notice her reactions. I feel like there's a lag between my body and mind sometimes. ...is a common way people exper...
- Wed May 29, 2024 6:44 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: having feelings for a friend that ive only known for a few weeks. what do i do?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 669
Re: having feelings for a friend that ive only known for a few weeks. what do i do?
Hey, Silly, it's nice to see you again! I have a few things to offer you around all of this. I think the idea that it's perverted to have sexual feelings for someone comes from our pretty sex-negative culture, cultural messaging that sex that sex is dirty but love or friendship are wholesome when th...
- Wed May 29, 2024 6:31 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Was it "mild assault?"
- Replies: 1
- Views: 204
Re: Was it "mild assault?"
Hey there, hadleycee. I'm so sorry that you have experienced this, but I am glad that you found us and came here to ask for support. I don't think you're making a big deal out of nothing. I can't speak to "mild" assault or not, because I don't really think of assault as having grades like ...
- Mon May 20, 2024 8:27 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Desire to take my bullet vibe to school!
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1415
Re: Desire to take my bullet vibe to school!
I want to add that there isn't anything wrong with fantasizing about this.
In fact, you can think about that fantasy during your private masturbation at home, and that right there may give you the excitement boost you're looking for. Fantasy is powerful!
In fact, you can think about that fantasy during your private masturbation at home, and that right there may give you the excitement boost you're looking for. Fantasy is powerful!
- Sun May 19, 2024 11:20 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.
- Replies: 11
- Views: 509
Re: I’m not sure if i’m bisexual, but i’m already hating it.
I'm sorry that this is feeling so daunting for you! My best advice is to stop trying. In other words, you don't need a word for something that you don't feel yet fully able to describe, especially something like this where it's not like it's required for anything. You can also stop thinking about wh...
- Thu May 16, 2024 1:58 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
- Replies: 8
- Views: 652
Re: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
AQ: Thanks so much for saying such lovely things! I really appreciated that. And I hear you, for sure. My life experience is also that the longer romantic or sexual relationships go on, the more they tend to develop friendship aspects (though sometimes that's how those relationships began, so it's a...
- Wed May 15, 2024 12:31 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: vaginal and vulvar pain after waking up , was i sexually assaulted in my sleep ?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 486
Re: vaginal and vulvar pain after waking up , was i sexually assaulted in my sleep ?
Hi there, beena, welcome to the boards. I'm sorry this is why you're here, but I am glad that you are here. It would be very unlikely to be sexually assaulted and not wake up unless you were drugged or otherwise intoxicated. Do you think those things were possibilities? If not, what seems most likel...
- Wed May 15, 2024 12:26 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
- Replies: 8
- Views: 652
Re: Missing the person who I’m dating when I’m away from them
Hey there, AQ! I'm just poking my head in to add something a bit to the side of what you're asking, but that I think might also be helpful. Nothing I say is to discount your already excellent observations about your desire for more physical touch in your other relationships, just so you know! I do t...
- Thu May 09, 2024 8:46 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Did it count?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 536
Re: Did it count?
I hope that this isn't overwhelming, response-wise, but I also want to just drop some support and care around the fact that you find yourself feeling unable to avoid this person because he's your rabbi's son. It's extra awful that your religious community isn't a safety net for you, and seems like b...
Re: break up
Hey there, naurmi. Were you able to read this piece Sam shared near the top of this thread? https://www.scarleteen.com/read/feelings/getting-through-breakup-without-actually-breaking It offers a lot of help with managing your feelings in a breakup. You know, you probably would have been completely o...
- Wed May 08, 2024 8:09 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I form my sexual values...
- Replies: 1
- Views: 366
Re: How do I form my sexual values...
Hello there. Before anything else, my first piece of advice would be to look back at a couple of your previous posts here and consider engaging with them. You've asked similar things here before, and a couple folks have started conversations with you about this stuff in those threads that you haven'...
- Mon May 06, 2024 11:31 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: traumatizing yourself???
- Replies: 1
- Views: 345
Re: traumatizing yourself???
So, we can't sexually assault ourselves, because sexual assault, by definition, is only something one person can do to another. But we can do sexual things to ourselves that we don't feel good about -- at the time or after -- or that may or can be self-harm or part of it, for sure. That PTSD: did th...
- Mon May 06, 2024 11:29 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Condom slip with sex worker, HIV risk ?
- Replies: 8
- Views: 13033
Re: Condom slip with sex worker, HIV risk ?
So, ultimately in terms of worrying less, you are just going to have to work on letting this go. It is something that happened in the past and, save potentially using a PEP, something you can't do anything about. Self-loathing also isn't going to help you out here. In the wise words of Elsa, let it ...
- Sun May 05, 2024 9:59 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm afraid I'll turn out to be heterosexual
- Replies: 2
- Views: 415
Re: I'm afraid I'll turn out to be heterosexual
I forgot to share the link with you that I meant to! I think a read through this will give you a lot of information and support around this: The Rainbow Connection: Orientation for Everyone.
- Sun May 05, 2024 9:50 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I'm afraid I'll turn out to be heterosexual
- Replies: 2
- Views: 415
Re: I'm afraid I'll turn out to be heterosexual
Hey there, PomPom. So, there are WAY more orientations and sexual identities than just heterosexual or homosexual, and some others do describe the attractions you are feeling more accurately. For starters, both homosexual and heterosexual people are not always (and I would say rarely, when people ar...
- Thu Apr 25, 2024 9:30 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: How to practice sex positivity
- Replies: 5
- Views: 3778
Re: How to practice sex positivity
I also just want to put in a reminder here that sex work is real work, and the chosen work of many real people. I'm not sure what you mean when you say that you find the fact that there are prostitutes disappointing, but when you talk about sex workers here, please try and do so in the respectful wa...
- Thu Apr 25, 2024 8:55 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: is it selfish to not want children?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 3263
Re: is it selfish to not want children?
Even if it IS selfish, we all not only get to think of and center ourselves in these choices, we 1000% should, if we're going to make them responsibly. No one owes the word children, no one owes the world their body in this regard, and there is no one right thing to do, especially where the actual p...
- Wed Apr 24, 2024 1:55 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: About sexual noises...
- Replies: 14
- Views: 4276
Re: About sexual noises...
You don't need to be sorry about it! But I have seen a pattern of you kind of trying to figure out or manage sexual partners or partnerships that don't yet exist, and I gotta tell you, that's just not a sound use of your time or energy. I'd also say it might even make it so that when you do connect ...
- Wed Apr 24, 2024 12:31 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: About sexual noises...
- Replies: 14
- Views: 4276
Re: About sexual noises...
I can't tell you what to care about or not in this or any respect, honestly. I can think of a bunch of different reasons people might care about or be invested in (or not) this or any aspect of porn, but all of those cares, or the lack of them, are very personal. I do think that it sounds like you'r...
- Wed Apr 24, 2024 8:48 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: About sexual noises...
- Replies: 14
- Views: 4276
Re: About sexual noises...
If I understand which question (I'm only really seeing one) this is about, no one is going to be able to tell you how much of the sounds you hear people making in all pornography -- that's an awfully big and very diverse pool that also spans at least centuries! -- are faked, aren't faked, or are rea...