Like Sam and Mo have said, it's not unexpected that you have some affection for your cousin and care about what happens to him. However, you aren't safe right now, what he's doing to you is abuse - way beyond just making a mistake or messing up - and making sure you're safe is the most important thi...

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Anxiety can really mess with your life, for sure. I'm so glad you're seeing a therapist soon, and hopefully they'll be able to help (although it's worth keeping in mind that there is no instant fix here, it's going to take some time and work before you start feeling better). We actually have a piece...

Are you saying that the door to your room has been removed, so that you no longer have any privacy?

Also, is there anyone else besides your dad you might be able to talk to about this? Like Sam, I'd say at the very least this is incredibly inappropriate, and definitely qualifies as abuse in my book.

Thanks for clarifying that for me. So, relationships do require some effort on the part of everyone involved, but no amount of effort is going to change things if you're just feeling plain done with this relationship and unhappy about being in it. Too, feeling like you might not find another relatio...

I'm sorry you're feeling so upset, but it does sound like you've realized some very important things here.

When you say he won't let you leave, can you explain a bit more about what that means?

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Looking for a therapist nearby sounds like a great plan: I'm glad you're feeling more confident about seeking out support! It is likely to take some time to change these anxiety-driven thought patterns, but it is possible and something that will likely help you feel so much better in the long run.

It's difficult for sure to shake off the idea of 'normal' set by the media and pop culture - it's everywhere and something we tend to be exposed to from a very young age, so you're certainly not alone in feeling it's pervasiveness and impact on your own expectations. It's great that you have people ...

You got it. :) One option is to talk to your general doctor, if you have one that you see on a regular basis, and ask them if they have any suggestions about who to contact for mental healthcare. Another possibility, if you're a student, is to see if your school has any counselling services for stud...

Welcome to Scarleteen, hera. I don't think you're overreacting at all: what this guy did was indeed assault, and being assaulted can have a big impact on how you feel about sex and on your mental health and wellbeing generally. There's a lot to address in your post, but I want to check in with you a...

At this point, I'm not sure what else we can tell you other than to strongly suggest, again, that you seek out some mental healthcare. It's pretty clear that anxiety is a big problem for you right now, and a qualified mental health professional is going to be your best source of help in learning to ...

Hi Metallicab8, and welcome to Scarleteen.

This may sound like a bit of a silly question, but is sex with this person something you want? And are you aroused mentally and wanting sex before anything physical happens?

I'm so sorry, Nicolelyne. Is there anything we can do to support you right now?

Glad the clarification helped. It does sound like your OCD is causing some difficulties for you though, so if you'd like some help figuring out how to find a counsellor or therapist, that's something we can talk about.

Getting into a spiral of anxiety isn't uncommon at all, and if BC is something you worry about, then it's not surprising you've had one of those spiralling panics about it. Seeking out a form of BC that is very effective is a great step towards managing anxiety, but anxiety is often irrational so it...

There are a couple of pieces that might be useful to read as a start: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown ED: Why You Don't Have to Get So Down About Not Getting It Up Too, as Jacob suggested, a therapist or counsellor could be helpful if you're finding that you just can't let go of ...

You're very welcome: if you need anything else, please let us know!

Okay, so if the support you got before wasn't from someone who specialised in helping survivors of assault and abuse, it could definitely be worthwhile seeking out someone who is. I'm not terribly familiar with orgs in the UK, but a google search turned up The Survivors Trust . You can call them on ...

If you haven't shared your strategies for dealing with triggers with your partner, then yep, that could be a help, particularly if you've found that there are specific kinds of support you prefer to have. I would also suggest that for now, it's a good idea to hold off on any kinds of sex that you fi...

Just wanted to second Jacob's suggestion about using incognito mode for your browser if you aren't already, and to give you another high five for taking care of yourself! If there's anything else we can help you with let us know.

Thanks for clarifying that; if you don't feel comfortable seeing that particular counsellor again that's understandable. Some of the things you worked on with that counsellor might still be useful here, however; did you work on any strategies to manage flashbacks and triggers when they happened? If ...

Welcome to Scarleteen, Charliecat: it's absolutely fine to post this here, and I'm glad you've found us, although I'm sorry some tough stuff is what brought you here. Unfortunately, dealing with and healing from abuse is in some ways a lifelong process. Even when you think you've healed and moved on...

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Some things, like herpes (cold sores) can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact, like a kiss on the cheek from a family member. I honestly didn't mean to scare you, and I apologise if I've caused you any anxiety! I mentioned STIs as a possibility only because they are indeed one possible cause...