Hi superman22, Retracting the foreskin before putting on the condom allows the foreskin to move freely during sex, which can feel more comfortable and pleasurable. As long as you have the condom on properly - all the way on, with no air bubbles - it shouldn't make a difference to how likely it is to...

Hi Bee! Welcome to the boards. It sounds to me like you're doing the right things - getting yourself checked out and talking to your recent partners about it too. It is entirely possible that your friend who is waiting for their results will test positive - even if his other partners haven't - as ev...

Hi ButterflyBaby, I'm sorry that this is so difficult for you. It sounds like finding a new provider who is more knowledgeable about this would be a really good step. How's the search going? It sounds like your wife is really supportive with this. Have you tried solo masturbation too? It might be a ...

Lube is a good addition! When you decided to try intercourse, how were you feeling? Nervous? Excited? Relaxed? And how did it compare to how you've felt before when trying manual penetration?

Hi again ArzineusYuki, So ideas about being "addicted to sex" come out a lot in the media but they are pretty scare-mongering and unhelpful. Generally, at Scarleteen we wouldn't say you're addicted to masturbation or to sex. Some people do struggle with compulsive behaviour around this tho...

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Hi Eric Welcome to the boards :) glad you found us! So there are muscles in your scrotum that contract to pull your testes closer to your body - to keep them warm, or around orgasm for example. It's more unusual but not unheard of for them to retract all the way back up into the inguinal canals insi...

Hi Animallover, Can I ask what motivates you to have sex if you're not finding it pleasurable or feeling aroused? What do you get from it? Overall in your relationship, how are you guys at talking about sensitive subjects? How much do you feel like you're making decisions together and how much are y...

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Hey :) Welcome to the boards! There's no "right" way to masturbate, often learning what feels good in our particular body is an ongoing process, and as we experiment and explore over time we add more little pieces to the jigsaw. If you'd like some other ideas, take a look at this: How Do Y...

Great! Is there anything in particular you'd like to talk about more?

Hi Vesper,

It sounds like making an appointment with your healthcare provider would be a good first step, what you're describing is certainly unusual. Feel free to come back and talk with us some more when you've had their advice

Hi Planet4, Welcome to the boards! It sounds like you're working hard to be considerate here :) Let's break this down a little. Some ace people do date sexual people and have happy, healthy relationships with them, others prefer not to. There is no blanket rule here - it's really down to what's righ...

Hi there, Welcome to the boards, I'm glad you found us. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. Yes, what you're describing counts as sexual assault and fits the FBI definition of rape which is “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetr...

You're welcome BuddyBoi we're here whenever you need us.

Animallover - I'm sorry you're struggling. Can you make yourself a new thread to talk about this so we can support you there?

When a condom breaks it usually does so with a pretty clear tear. They don't get thin and start "seeping". Think of it like a balloon - a small hole quickly turns into a big tear when it's blown/stretched.

Hi Nicky! Welcome to the boards :) The vagina is a muscle - it doesn't generally "stretch" and change size permanently. Most of the time, it's collapsed closed on itself and short term changes happen when you feel aroused (it relaxes) or tense (it might tighten). This is why you can comfor...

Hi BuddyBoi :) You're right, it is totally normal to have crushes whether we're in a relationship or not. It can be fun and harmless and really not a major problem as long as you respect boundaries - both of your crush and of your partner - which it sounds like you've been doing. In general, if you ...

Hi! So not knowing about the dynamics of your family, I don't know whether any of this is best coming from you or coming from your partner. Either way, I suggest that having them all together and having a straightforward "hey, our sex toys have gone missing, it's fine to be curious but we don't...

Hi Eleanor

No need to apologise, we're here for when you need us. Really happy to talk to you some more about this if you think that's helpful. Did you read the article Chloé included? What did you think?

Hi again ArzineusYuki, I'm glad you're starting to feel a little better about this! You answer your questions, there's nothing that you've said that should prevent you from doing any of the things you want in your life - including having happy, healthy, fulfilling relationship (including sexual rela...

Hi Violetgraceful :) Welcome to the boards! First off, I think you're being hard on yourself when you talk about what "normal" people experience that you don't. Every person's sexuality is different and really, I don't think you're in an unusual place - especially for your age. Figuring ou...

Hi Jess, I'm glad your boyfriend values your quality time together. Do you think it might be good to put more effort into having quality time without focusing so much on sex? I'm asking because you talked about "sex happening quickly". Sex isn't something that should just "happen"...

Wow, that all sounds like quite a lot at once - how are you feeling? With your ex, all that judgement he's piling on you - combined with the way he treated you by making you feel pressured to have sex and ignoring you - it sounds like he's showing himself to be someone who isn't healthy for you to b...