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by Keda
Thu Jan 08, 2015 9:48 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: National late abortion ban in the US?
Replies: 7
Views: 4991

Re: National late abortion ban in the US?

Huh, I'll have to knock thinkprogress down a notch or two in my source reliability book, then. Thankyou, that explains why I couldn't find anything else about it. :)
by Keda
Thu Jan 08, 2015 9:37 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: What actually is a withdrawal bleed?
Replies: 22
Views: 39987

Re: What actually is a withdrawal bleed?

You just miscounted. :)

Thursday - day 0
Friday - day 1
Saturday - day 2
Sunday - day 3
Monday - day 4
Tuesday - day 5
Wednesday - day 6
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Friday - day 8
by Keda
Thu Jan 08, 2015 8:14 am
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: National late abortion ban in the US?
Replies: 7
Views: 4991

National late abortion ban in the US?

I just spotted this article on facebook: http://thinkprogress.org/health/2015/01 ... -abortion/
It doesn't seem to have been picked up by my other news sources. Do you guys know anything about it?
by Keda
Wed Jan 07, 2015 11:02 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Advice and help on Tampons (I know nothing about them :/ )
Replies: 31
Views: 12743

Re: Advice and help on Tampons (I know nothing about them :/

Maybe the old trick of using a hand mirror to have a look at your vulva, and then having a gentle poke around, might help? So long as you cut and file your fingernails first, you're really at no risk of hurting yourself - just like ordinary skin, you'll feel pressure, then discomfort, then pain long...
by Keda
Wed Jan 07, 2015 4:47 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Are there any bad things about masterbating
Replies: 1
Views: 2617

Re: Are there any bad things about masterbating

There are no bad side effects of masturbation itself. Problems can happen - if someone is spending so much time masturbating that they don't have time for study or work; or if their beliefs (about religion, about masturbating while in a relationship, or something like that) make them feel bad afterw...
by Keda
Sun Jan 04, 2015 7:44 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Some Pain
Replies: 2
Views: 1862

Re: Some Pain

I too would recommend against ripping duct tape off, since that stuff is mighty damn sticky and there's a not insignificant risk of taking some skin off with it. Using other types of tape which are less powerfully adhesive, or something like a big sticking plaster (which, after all, is designed to c...
by Keda
Thu Jan 01, 2015 5:54 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Tumblr makes me sad sometimes (Leelah Alcorn)
Replies: 5
Views: 4396

Re: Tumblr makes me sad sometimes (Leelah Alcorn)

I totally get that, accessibility is just as important as inclusiveness; I also had completely failed to notice that the article was from 2007 originally! Sorry about that. :)
by Keda
Thu Jan 01, 2015 5:33 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Tumblr makes me sad sometimes (Leelah Alcorn)
Replies: 5
Views: 4396

Re: Tumblr makes me sad sometimes (Leelah Alcorn)

No, you're right - it's not a failing of tumblr at all. But you go into some spaces geared up for the possibility of people saying horrible things, and tumblr isn't one of those spaces for me. Social change is a funny thing - when you're near the front of it, it can be easy to forget how many pocket...
by Keda
Thu Jan 01, 2015 5:24 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: So many New Years babies!
Replies: 4
Views: 3363

Re: So many New Years babies!

It must be the relief of not needing the heating on to get naked comfortably.
by Keda
Thu Jan 01, 2015 5:18 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: So many New Years babies!
Replies: 4
Views: 3363

Re: So many New Years babies!

I wonder if 01/01 is the default date when you sign up? :P My other site has "Male" as the default gender option, and it's always amusing to see that in a community which is about 80% female by most accounts, about 80% of our users have "Male" on their profiles. Either way, happy...
by Keda
Thu Jan 01, 2015 5:06 pm
Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
Topic: Tumblr makes me sad sometimes (Leelah Alcorn)
Replies: 5
Views: 4396

Tumblr makes me sad sometimes (Leelah Alcorn)

I don't know how many of you guys have heard of Leelah Alcorn: she was a trans teen in the US, who killed herself a few days ago, having left a suicide note online. Since she came out to her family, they'd been as unsupportive as they possibly could, had punished her for being trans, and had forced ...
by Keda
Wed Dec 31, 2014 10:29 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: I'm the only one who thinks it's best that I'm single.
Replies: 2
Views: 1883

Re: I'm the only one who thinks it's best that I'm single.

Redskies sort of mentioned this in their response, but if changing your parents' minds isn't a good option - it certainly sounds like doing that is gonna be difficult, and honestly, you're not obliged to explain your reasoning to them or satisfy them that you're making decisions well - then would it...
by Keda
Wed Dec 31, 2014 10:21 am
Forum: Gender
Topic: Yay for gender-neutral washrooms!
Replies: 7
Views: 6978

Re: Yay for gender-neutral washrooms!

There's a supermarket near me which did a rather smart thing, and just has a row of single bathrooms, no sex/gender signage, and they're all accessible. All "three" bathrooms fitted into the space that would usually be occupied by one.

Now if only they cleaned them occasionally...
by Keda
Tue Dec 30, 2014 6:11 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Should we break up?
Replies: 6
Views: 2882

Re: Should we break up?

You can also get a certain amount of privacy by being in public - in a place where no-one knows you and no-one is interested in what you're saying. So maybe you could go for a meal with him, or go to the cinema or somesuch, and talk there? Or even just let your parents know that you need to have a s...
by Keda
Sat Dec 27, 2014 6:56 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How does it feel...
Replies: 2
Views: 4182

Re: How does it feel...

It feels different for everyone, really. We have this tendency to put sex on a pedestal like it's totally incomparable, but it's not - you probably already know what it's like to physically feel skin on skin; to feel emotionally connected and intimate with someone; to feel aroused and excited - and ...
by Keda
Wed Dec 24, 2014 10:15 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: How do you understand your own orientation?
Replies: 7
Views: 7779

Re: How do you understand your own orientation?

Hehe, the idea that there is a label for people who think labels are for soup cans tickles me. I'm going through one of those weird fluctuations lately, where I still identify as pan but am mostly interested in women right now - back when I used to identify as bi I called it "riding the bi-cycl...
by Keda
Sun Dec 21, 2014 3:57 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Torn and confused.
Replies: 42
Views: 11371

Re: Torn and confused.

May I ask, with the dates, what was it you were scared/anxious about that made you freeze up? There's absolutely nothing wrong or horrible in wanting to find a romantic partner. All the things romantic relationships can provide - love, intimacy, support and so on - can be really positive things, whi...
by Keda
Sat Dec 20, 2014 8:14 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Neutral Masturbation
Replies: 13
Views: 6149

Re: Neutral Masturbation

Just human diversity, really, much like some people don't like cheese.
by Keda
Thu Dec 18, 2014 10:27 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Neutral Masturbation
Replies: 13
Views: 6149

Re: Neutral Masturbation

It's also totally cool not to ever find yourself feeling horny - the barrier that most people have around sex is "Ooh bad don't do that", which is why so much sex positive media is on the "Yes! Try it!" side; but in reality, sex positivity is about your sexual choices being based...
by Keda
Tue Dec 16, 2014 4:05 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: what is relationship work?
Replies: 13
Views: 5850

Re: what is relationship work?

Just to throw a spanner in the works, the only plant that I've owned myself so far was a lovely yellow thing which did reasonably well with me, until I went to visit family and gave it to a neighbour to look after while I was away. It absolutely blossomed under her care, and when I got back it despe...
by Keda
Sat Dec 13, 2014 5:11 am
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Getting "inked"?
Replies: 18
Views: 8459

Re: Getting "inked"?

Awesome, I'm glad it went well! How's it looking?
by Keda
Sat Dec 13, 2014 5:07 am
Forum: Relationships
Topic: what is relationship work?
Replies: 13
Views: 5850

Re: what is relationship work?

I get what you're saying at the end there, moonlight, and I agree to some extent, but not all the way. It's totally true that all the meaning we attach to stuff - to our interactions with other people, circumstances, events etc. - is all socially constructed; none of it has a basis in the "real...
by Keda
Fri Dec 12, 2014 3:58 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Scared of my own vulva (let alone vagina)?
Replies: 6
Views: 3118

Re: Scared of my own vulva (let alone vagina)?

In regard to the body positivity stuff, I wonder if it might be helpful to hunt around for some ace (asexual) social media too? Whatever your sexuality, I can imagine that people in the ace community might have a bit more of the attitude you're trying to get into, of "Yes, sex is great and wond...
by Keda
Sat Dec 06, 2014 4:42 pm
Forum: Et Cetera
Topic: Getting "inked"?
Replies: 18
Views: 8459

Re: Getting "inked"?

Good luck! I hope it comes out brilliantly :)
by Keda
Sat Dec 06, 2014 3:34 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Making up for a lack of "instinct"?
Replies: 2
Views: 2179

Re: Making up for a lack of "instinct"?

We saw Heather's quote about interpretive dance on tumblr, and my partner and I agreed that we do freestyle disco: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gTchxR4suto (just hoping that will make you feel a bit less worried about doing it wrong, Atlaos :P)