How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

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Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

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What would be some things you could do over the next few days to help you feel less lonely? Those could be things like spending time with friends or family, volunteering, or other activities that get you interacting with other people in a positive way.
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Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

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I guess so. Some days I feel okay, but some days Are just complete sadness.
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Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

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I didnt lose my complete virginity to her and during 5 months i was still dumb enough not to make an improvement from my part. :/
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Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

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I just feel no one around could have been so naive and dumb like I was. I had anxiety and my own mind and behavior let me down. If I would have been more mature and rational, things could have been sweeter. Now it just a distant memory that haunts.
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Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

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With time I think this will hurt less, although of course I'm sorry it's so rough for you right now. For the moment, I think doing some of the things Sam suggested above, and continuing to talk about how you're feeling with your counselor so they can give you some further suggestions, is your best plan.
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Re: How to get over an unfulfilling sexual relationship?

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Yeah, I guess, it hurts less, but the pain hasnt vanished, sometimes i feel nostalgic. Like I said, i feel just stupid. I could have changed my attitude but I didnt, because I didnt make a second thought about it. Now it is just... A broken memory.
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