Precum on fingers and condom.

[juv]

Hi. On September 21 me and my boyfriend js wanted to take each others virginities we failed so he took off the condom. We both wore back my clothes but my concern is that there may be precum on his hands and a few mins later he tried to finger me. 3 days later we tried it again which is on 24 September. We did foreplay first and then we tried doing it again 3-4 hrs ago he masturbated and peed. He then wore a condom his tip went in me and broke my hymen which led me to bleed. we then took a break he removed the condom wore his pants and threw it away. 10-15 mins later we decided to try to put his penis fully into me. we thought it did until a week later i told him i could not feel anything and he said it could have just been rubbing me. My fear is that there may be precum on his fingers and him touching the condom w precum which could let me have risk of getting pregnant. i cant rely on periods as it may be delayed as im stressing but i have pms symtoms rn too.

[Straif]

Hi juv,
If I'm hearing you correctly, your genitals never came into direct contact without a condom? If that is the case, then it significantly lowers your risk of pregnancy. Condoms aren't 100 percent effective, so it is good to have a backup method of birth control if possible. What I don't think you need to worry about is precum transferring from his hand to the condom to your genitals. You are correct that sperm can be found in pre-ejaculate, but sperm are actually pretty delicate cells that don't often survive being transferred across multiple surfaces. (In other words, if it wasn't noticeably present on his hand, then it's not likely to be a concern.) Because you did have genital contact, even with a condom on, there is a small risk of pregnancy, so if your period doesn't show up, you can take a pregnancy test once you are 14 days out from the sexual contact that concerns you. You can find out a lot more about birth control, pregnancy tests, and what can or can't get you pregnant here.

Since it sounds like you're both really new to this, I am going to share a couple of articles that will help you both stay safe AND make sure your future encounters are pleasurable for everyone.

Yield for Pleasure

With Pleasure: A View of Sexual Anatomy for Every Body

Sexual Response and Orgasm: A Users Guide

Ready or Not: The Sexual Readiness Checklist

20 Questions About Virginity

[juv]

Hello! been reading some articles here and there! Im unable to get birth control pills as I do not want my parents to find out and we will not be having intercourse again till we're married! since u said that that's a relief but my only concern is the precum during 24 September when we both wore back clothes and 10-15 mins later we try again. I read that precum can dry during that time period and he said he didnt see any cum. He said he put the condom correctly. what im scared is that there will be precum on his hands and touching the condom when rolling it down. . After he assumed rubbed me he came but he pulled out and came 2 seconds!

[juv]

Hello this is me resubmitting as it was 2am when i posted that so he says he didnt see any shiny or anything and his penis was dry but I'm scared there may be a bit of precum and he touched it and also is it better to take the test 14 days after or 21 days after? And im also curious if i can get pregnant on 21 September about him removing the condom and wore back his pants and a few minutes later touching my vagina.

[Sofi]

Hi juv,

As we explained, sperm cells don't survive long outside an optimal environment such as outside the body. Even 5 minutes is too long for there to really be any risk. Here's an article that explains more about how pregnancy happens:
Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide

[juv]

Hi thank god because its 5am and i had to go to the toilet to pee 3 times with each time getting lesser and lesser and i felt like vomitting but nothing came out