I know this sounds silly but i don’t know if im pregnant

[funnybunny627]

Hello, it’s been 4 months since my last intercourse on june 19th and i feel like ive really developed some type of anxiety loop that ive been stuck in. So on june 19th me and my then boyfriend had protected sex and then the day of or day after i had a really long 10 day period then the month after i didn’t get my period then the month after i got a short 4 day period then the month after i got brown discharge for the days i was supposed to be on my period and now it’s october and ive been getting spotting and brown discharge the entire month like ive been getting brown discharge so much more often and so much more commonly than before. I still haven’t gotten an actual flow with blood clots this month or last month and i’ve been so scared recently. After the 21 day mark i’ve taken a total of 3 pregnancy tests and all three of them came back negative. What’s worse is that i keep seeing the videos online saying that they also had 3 negative tests and they were pregnant and that they were 4 months along and had no bump or no symptoms. I’m really scared and worried i don’t know what to do, I really want reassurance and I really don’t want a baby at such a young age, and other than pregnancy scares i’m trying really hard to cope with the fact that i didn’t want to even have intercourse with that guy in the first place. I have no one to go to and i’m really grateful to just be able to express my worries to the scarleteen community thank you

[Anya]

Hey funnybunny627,

We are here for you. It seems like this situation has really caused you some distress and that is so understandable, but of course also so upsetting to go through. Given what you have described, I would confidently say that you have no risk of pregnancy. First, having protected sex (ie. using a condom, birth control, etc. ) lowers your risk quite a bit, and then taking 3 pregnancy tests already confirms that your preventative measures have worked and you are not pregnant. Now, it's understandable to be slightly cautious about false negatives, which a few have technically happened in the past, but the likelihood of getting a false negative pregnancy test is generally around 1%. This, in combination with your protected sex AND the bleeding/spotting you are experiencing is confirmation to me that you are not pregnant.

A major cause of irregular bleeding in people who are afraid they might be pregnant is actually the psychological stress itself, which can then mentally confirm the worse in your own head. More often than not, increased stress, anxiety, fear can all cause menstrual irregularities meaning it is likely not a sign of pregnancy. If you were pregnant you would very very likely not be bleeding at all, so this would tell me that your risk is extremely low.

How are you feeling about all of this? I know it can be hard to hear this and truly believe it but I encourage you to take a look at some extra resources which may help set your mind at ease.
Pregnancy Scared?
Pregnancy Scare Resources

[funnybunny627]

Thank you so much Ms Anya
just hearing this from you really lifted a weight from my chest i’m feeling a lot better but ohmigosh i know i sound crazy paranoid but what i meant by protected sex was just condoms!! Does that make a crazy difference? Maybe it doesn’t and maybe i’m just too paranoid but either ways thank you so much. Have a happy halloween <3

[Anya]

Hey funnybunny627,

I'm so glad we could help you ease some of this stress. What I meant by "protection" was just to say that any one of these options counts, so using only condoms certainly does count as a preventative measure against conception. The difference in this case is not major so it does not change what I believe to be true for you, regarding pregnancy.

It's understandable to feel paranoid and not let yourself fully relax, but please do look over the resources I sent as they may really help you with this bit.

Have a happy Halloween

[funnybunny627]

Thank you once again
I’ve read the articles and i do feel a little better but i just feel like i wont be able to feel comfortable till i get my period back, i have gotten brown discharge for two months now for september and october and the brown discharge just wont stop, there’s little but it’s like every other day that i get it. How do i get my period back i miss it so bad

[char]

Hey funnybunny627! Happy to hear that Anya's response was helpful. During the first few years of your period, it's typical for your period to be irregular or for the discharge to look different. Stress can also affect our period. As stated in our article about periods:

The impact of stress and how you deal with it can also make you miss a period, including stressing out about a possible pregnancy. If you’re sexually active, you can reduce that stress a lot by using sound birth control and STI⁠ protection, or by not engaging in any kind of sex that you don’t feel safe and secure enough about. And if you were part of something that could have posed a risk of pregnancy, when you can take a pregnancy test.

Does this answer your question?

[funnybunny627]

i think i get it but i still never thought stress could give me like brown discharges for two month in a row. Do i just need to calm down to get my period back? sorry for asking alot

[Latha]

Hi Funnybunny,

There are other factors that could affect your periods, but reducing stress about your periods will help in general and giving yourself time could very well help your cycle go back to normal.

If I may ask, do you have a sense of what normal periods are like for you? You've mentioned having longer and shorter periods and cycles. Is that something that happened before the time you've described to us? And also, when did you start getting periods?

I also want to follow up on something you mentioned earlier--that you did not want to have intercourse when you did. I'm sorry to hear that. Would you like to talk a little about what happened?