idk what i am sometimes

[Zayne.mp3]

I like he/him pronouns
I don't really like they/them and i hate she/her
but i don't feel... i guess i don't feel fully like a guy, but i also feel like i want more than anything to be seen as a guy
idk what i am?
im so confused and my therapist has told me that my autism diagnosis might affect how i perceive my gender but still

[Sofi]

Hi Zayne.mp3,

What's not working about he/him pronouns? You said you like them, so it seems like that works out just fine. You don't have to fully "feel like a guy", especially because there's no set definition of what that even looks like. Gender is complex and there aren't boxes to neatly fit our gender expression and gender into, rather we can make our own configuration, if that makes sense. So whatever pronouns feel right for you are right, even if you aren't sure you perfectly fit into whatever gender you think they're assigning.

I do want to ask - what are you looking for out of figuring this out? In other words, are you wanting to find pronouns that feel right, or figure out which ones "fit your gender best", and why? Are you looking for guidance on your gender, or just the pronouns?

[Zayne.mp3]

I actually don't know what i was talking about i was tired when i wrote this and don't remember writing it at all /silly
but uhh i guess i had been looking for a label but i think honestly just genderqueer fits

[Becky]

Hey Zayne.mp3!

I completely understand wanting to find a label for yourself and I'm glad you're excited about genderqueer right now! For what it's worth though, you are always allowed to continue exploring your gender and you can always change your mind as you grow and experience more things. I'm going to link some of my favorite articles about exploring gender here. They are written by some fellow nonbinary/gender expansive folks

Gender Journaling
Gender Identity: My Step by Step

[Zayne.mp3]

Thank you so much!