All of a sudden i can actually finish from sex?

[raily_]

I posted on here probably a month and a half or two months ago about how I could not finish from PIV sex, especially without something else happening (like clitoral stimulation). Recently, I had sex with my boyfriend and finished from ONLY PIV sex with no extra help. This has happens over 50% of the time now since that first time a week ago. What could have changed? Before it felt good but it didn't honestly "feel" like much it was just like "oh okay this is happening" but now it's so much better. Could it be I somehow got more relaxed with him? I really am just curious to see what you guys think.

[Heather]

Oh gosh, any number of things.

For sure, if you were tense about this, relaxing could be one thing that made a difference. So could things like subtle adjustments to the angles of things physically, a different time in your cycle, or -- and I'd say this is most likely -- having a different mindset when it comes to orgasm or this kind of sex.

If during that sex before you were very focused on the orgasms you weren't having, that's something we know keeps people from it. If you were able to shift gears and be less attached to or focused on orgasm with this kind of sex, it will tend to make it more likely for orgasm to happen.