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What gender am I?

Questions and discussions about gender, gender roles and identity.
Blackheart
newbie
Posts: 1
Joined: Wed Aug 24, 2016 2:16 pm
Age: 21
Awesomeness Quotient: I can sing well
Primary language: English?
Pronouns: They
Sexual identity: I like girls
Location: England

What gender am I?

Unread post by Blackheart »

I'm 13 and I was born female, most of the time I identify as female, but occasionally I identify as male. When I'm having a 'female day' I wear skirts and make up, but on a male day I'm the opposite. What's happening? I'm not gender neutral because I am a female and I am a male just not at the same time. Please can someone explain what's going on. Is this normal? I am male, but sometimes I am female, everyone calls me she and sometimes this gets annoying because I'm not?!
Sam W
previous staff/volunteer
Posts: 10320
Joined: Mon Jul 28, 2014 9:06 am
Age: 33
Awesomeness Quotient: I raise carnivorous plants
Primary language: english
Pronouns: she/her
Sexual identity: queer
Location: Coast

Re: What gender am I?

Unread post by Sam W »

Hi Blackheart and welcome to the boards,

The tricky thing is, we can't tell you what you are or how you should identify. That's something you get to work out for yourself. What we can do is give you some tools to help with that process. Have you had the chance to read about being genderqueer or gender fluid (those sound like they might fit how you're feeling)?

I also want to give you this article, since it sounds like not knowing is making you feel at least a little stressed: http://www.scarleteen.com/node/7926
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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