Please don't hate me

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Please don't hate me

Unread post by IAmScared »

Hi,good day.

I changed my gender. So recently,as I live with my grandpa who sexually abused me,I feel as I dissapointed him and feel guilty that he is not attracted to me anymore since I look as a boy now. I feel I dissapointed him. Now,I do NOT want him to touch me,but the feeling of dissapointment is still here.I feel guilty. It makes no sense cause I do not want him to touch me,but I can see dissapointment when he looks at me. (I was really sexually abused -- he would put his hands on my breasts when I had them and touch them without asking for my consent).What's wrong with me?? Please don't be mean to me
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Re: Please don't hate me

Unread post by Heather »

We would never be mean to you or any other user.

We do need to hold the hard line we have previous set with you, however, and will continue to ask you to please respect it.

As you know, you've been told we won't keep talking with you about your abuse here. We believe you, we always have, but as we have told you in the past, the kind of help you continue to need with this and the headspace you continue to be in with it is simply far outside our abilities and capacity as a service. As we have suggested before, since you generally have had at least one therapist you are regularly working with, we need to remind you again that we still need to refer you to your therapist for help with this. I'm sorry we can't help with this, but I do believe you have at least one person who can and who is actively helping you with this.

As we've said before, we'd be glad to talk with you about other issues, we just have to hold our limit with this one.
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