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by Sofi
Tue May 14, 2024 5:19 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sexual activities feel underwhelming
Replies: 1
Views: 132

Re: Sexual activities feel underwhelming

Hi there, welcome to the boards <3 I'm hearing your frustration and it sounds like you've really tried a lot of different things over a long period of time here. Reading your post, it doesn't sound like you're super enthusiastic about sex, which makes sense considering it doesn't feel good for you -...
by Sofi
Tue May 14, 2024 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I keep thinking I’m pregnant
Replies: 1
Views: 63

Re: I keep thinking I’m pregnant

Hi there, welcome to the boards! I hear you're having a lot of anxiety around pregnancy and I want to start by addressing the question (is it possible you're currently pregnant), then addressing the anxiety itself. From what you've described you and your boyfriend have done, it is not possible for y...
by Sofi
Sat Apr 27, 2024 3:24 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 44
Views: 24842

Re: Relationship

It sounds like you're very self aware and also aware of your partner's feelings, which is great because you can have a plan of action based on that. I will say, it's not worth it to carry guilt from past mistakes, it makes it harder to actually move forward and "do better". So if you are, ...
by Sofi
Sat Apr 27, 2024 3:20 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clarification on Potential Risks and Types of Contact
Replies: 11
Views: 3273

Re: Clarification on Potential Risks and Types of Contact

Hi there, welcome to the boards! This would not be considered direct contact, and by the time she went and washed up, any sperm in the semen would probably not have survived enough to be risk of pregnancy, because if was outside the body. What you are describing is extremely low risk, I would not wo...
by Sofi
Wed Apr 03, 2024 5:03 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: How do I become less scared of talking to people?
Replies: 5
Views: 2364

Re: How do I become less scared of talking to people?

I think that's a great option! Hope it goes well :)
by Sofi
Wed Apr 03, 2024 4:57 pm
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Phimosis and condoms
Replies: 1
Views: 1395

Re: Phimosis and condoms

Hi El000, your English is great by the way! Ah, I hear your concern. While it is advised to pull foreskin all the way back before putting on a condom, it's not necessary and the inability to won't make the condom fail. Condoms usually slip because they're too big or when the erection is lost, and br...
by Sofi
Wed Apr 03, 2024 4:29 pm
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: Freedom
Replies: 6
Views: 2494

Re: Freedom

Hi Ginger! I hear your concerns and they're valid. Truthfully, there isn't a right or wrong amount of times that it's okay or healthy to masturbate. Once a day is fine, twice a day is fine, twice a week or month or year is fine (you get the gist) If it's not distracting you from doing important thin...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 27, 2024 7:43 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Question on Polyam and Dysphoria Progressively Getting Worse
Replies: 13
Views: 7050

Re: Question on Polyam and Dysphoria Progressively Getting Worse

Hi Demigirl09,

Thanks for clarifying! Before I move on, I want to check if the resource Willa sent re: polyamory, and the advice re: dysphoria, were helpful? Did you have any questions about what she said or anything you want to discuss about it?
by Sofi
Wed Mar 27, 2024 5:52 pm
Forum: Bodies
Topic: Am I intersex?
Replies: 1
Views: 3879

Re: Am I intersex?

Hi there, kaleidoscope, welcome to the boards! You know, without being able to see (and without being medical professionals) we can't give an answer to whether you're intersex or not. So anything I say here, please don't take as medical advice, and please do consult an expert if you can/want to! Thi...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 9:24 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Overcoming feelings of sexual shame
Replies: 4
Views: 3904

Re: Overcoming feelings of sexual shame

I really don't think we can give you an average time frame because like you said it's different for everyone, and we would just be either setting you up for disappointment or making you rush the process. Yes, you can think of it that way if it helps. We don't really share our personal religious beli...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 9:13 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: What to do if I never feel aroused
Replies: 2
Views: 6942

Re: What to do if I never feel aroused

Hi kasra2000, welcome to the boards! You know, this is one of the most common questions we receive. Which means, a LOT of people go through this. It's not uncommon to feel this way and for it to create frustration, but there's nothing wrong with you, and it doesn't have to be due to anything in part...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 8:51 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: vibrator use and frequency
Replies: 1
Views: 2141

Re: vibrator use and frequency

Hi there,

This is a valid question because as you said there are a lot of people who think this, but it is in fact a myth. There's no evidence that vibrators numb or desensitize people's genitals in any way.

We have a longer post about it here: Do vibrators cause a loss of sensitivity?
by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 8:48 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Sex positive but not?
Replies: 9
Views: 1487

Re: Sex positive but not?

You could start with having that kind of conversation 1:1 with someone you trust or feel less shy around. That will make you feel more comfortable talking about the topic in general. Remember, you don't HAVE to talk about anything you're not comfortable with. But if you're just feeling shy, it would...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 13, 2024 8:36 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Testicular self examination
Replies: 2
Views: 923

Re: Testicular self examination

Hi Anonyme2324goat, welcome to the boards! To answer your main question, yes, many folks do feel comfortable touching and occassionally self examining their testicles. That being said, it's understandable that you're a bit nervous about it. Testicles can be sensitive, but try to remember that they'r...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 06, 2024 5:08 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Fantasy issues
Replies: 21
Views: 3426

Re: Fantasy issues

It does sound like for now you'll have to find moments and places when you're able to explore and experiment, rather than sticking to a routine per se. I want you to take some pressure off it though so when those opportunities come up, it doesn't feel like you HAVE to, or if you do and it's not as s...
by Sofi
Wed Mar 06, 2024 5:02 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I selfish?
Replies: 7
Views: 709

Re: Am I selfish?

That's great news that you were able to talk to them about it. I'm proud of you for doing that. <3
by Sofi
Tue Mar 05, 2024 6:01 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I selfish?
Replies: 7
Views: 709

Re: Am I selfish?

Ah, yeah, if it's something you've brought up more than once but it keeps getting danced around, it makes even more sense why you're frustrated. Have you expressed this to them clearly? If so, what did they say?
by Sofi
Tue Mar 05, 2024 5:59 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?
Replies: 11
Views: 1394

Re: Bath tub fingering questions(s) - Help?

It could be, but we don't have enough information to say nor can we diagnose you. It would be worth talking to a mental health professional about this since the anxiety seems to be causing you a lot of distress, and they can help you ease your anxiety.
by Sofi
Tue Mar 05, 2024 5:55 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Am I selfish?
Replies: 7
Views: 709

Re: Am I selfish?

Hi Skybushh, I'm sorry you're feeling hurt and disconnected from your partner, as well as (it seems) emotionally exhausted from trying. It sounds like you both really care about each other and want to make it work, but keep missing each other in those attempts. The end goal here is to get on the sam...
by Sofi
Wed Feb 21, 2024 5:25 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Possibly pregnant?
Replies: 3
Views: 847

Re: Possibly pregnant?

Both of those are great options - here's each one's detailed info to help you make an informed decision that's best for you:
Depo-Provera
IUD
by Sofi
Wed Feb 21, 2024 5:21 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can't ignore social stigma
Replies: 7
Views: 1349

Re: Can't ignore social stigma

I'm glad the article seems helpful - was there any particular part of it that helped, or that you want to discuss? It can be very hard to focus on pleasure when we have these strong outside influences telling us to feel guilt and shame. Sometimes it's good to slow down and work on that guilt and sha...
by Sofi
Wed Feb 21, 2024 4:22 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: No Guilt!
Replies: 1
Views: 1055

Re: No Guilt!

Glad to hear the articles and other board posts helped, and you're able to masturbate guilt and shame free. I encourage you to keep exploring our site as questions come up. :)
by Sofi
Wed Jan 24, 2024 2:12 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: friendships in the way?
Replies: 6
Views: 2968

Re: friendships in the way?

This all makes sense, thanks for expanding on it. You know, overthinking is definitely a result of anxiety for a lot of people, so often when we work on managing our anxiety we can also reduce the overthinking. One way you can work on this aside from therapy is just practicing mindfulness and ground...
by Sofi
Tue Jan 23, 2024 4:07 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Can’t orgasm
Replies: 23
Views: 2556

Re: Can’t orgasm

We do think it would be good to talk to a doctor about your symptons like the dizziness because they are a bit concerning as you described them, and it's always better to be safe when it comes to health. As far as masturbation not being as enjoyable, are you able to get your hands on stuff to make a...
by Sofi
Tue Jan 16, 2024 5:29 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: sexually frustrated
Replies: 26
Views: 6046

Re: sexually frustrated

Would your dad be more receptive perhaps? If you approach it as Sam explained, and tell them you've tried to drink more fluids and it hasn't helped and is getting worse, that should seem important enough to see a professional. I agree with Sam that this is a pretty intense symptom of arousal and see...